If you are feeling good within your connection right now and you are feeling happy, then surrender is not an obligation - it's not a set stage every twin has to go through unless there's unhealthy attachment going on.
But what is also very important to understand is, if we recognise that we do have some unhealthy attachments in our twin flame connection, we cannot force ourselves to surrender, it has to be a natural progression of our inner healing and raising of our vibration. If you feel resistance to letting go right now then you're not ready yet.
Basically, when we raise our vibration we naturally fall out of alignment with anything negative and so it feels natural to rise up into the positive by releasing the negatives that are holding us back from rising higher.
We naturally release the fear of abandonment and rejection and all things co-dependent through healing ourselves and raising our vibration and thus, if our interactions with our twin flame are not in harmony with peace, love and balance then we will naturally feel repelled so we can go off and create the harmony, peace, love and balance within ourselves.
Surrender has to come from an urge to love ourselves more by aligning ourselves with what feels good, what feels uplighting. It is not about trying to pull away to manipulate our twin to come closer, nor is it about trying to force ourselves into surrender to try and speed up reunion. It has to be a completely natural transition. Don't beat yourself up if you're not quite there yet, keep working on your inner healing and the time will come when you're truly ready. If you would like assistance on how to truly heal your energies to align more naturally with reunion then take a look at my eBook Twin Flame Reunion Manifestation here.
Trying to let go too soon when we still feel too attached and afraid of "losing" our twin means we still have inner wounds to resolve. When we are truly ready, it won't seem so scary to surrender and let go, it will feel right. You have to wait until it's ripe enough to fall off the tree effortlessly. Trying to pull it off before it's ready means there's not enough growth or "ripeness". Wait until it feels like the most natural thing in the world. You will know when the time is right, it will feel effortless.
It's often a sign that you are nearing the natural progression into surrender and letting go when it begins to feel like more of an effort to stay in the negative vibrations - it just doesn't feel right anymore. It almost feels like a struggle to stay in the negativity, like you are being repelled energetically but you're fighting to stay there because you think that's what you should be doing - holding on come rain or shine. It begins to feel like a heaviness that is holding you back or weighing you down from feeling your natural state of peace and harmony, feeling "uplifted".
You begin to feel an overwhelming magnetic attraction, drawing you to what feels good. If your connection is no longer feeling good, then with a raised vibration you naturally feel drawn away from that until or unless your twin can join you energetically at the higher vibration. There's an acceptance that twin flame reunion may never occur and for the first time you feel okay with that - it feels more important to be happy than to hold onto the darkness of despairing / worrying / obsessing etc over the connection. You begin to realise that holding on too tightly was beginning to make you feel unhappy, it no longer felt healthy, it's out of alignment with your new and high vibration.
But like I said before, don't try to force this - it won't work! You can't trick the universe into believing you are ready when you aren't. If you're trying to force this surrender and letting go then likely it's because you are either, a) trying to run from the pain of the core wounding coming up or b) you are trying to speed up the process of reunion. But we can't cut corners! It does not work like that. Reunion occurs as a natural progression of our raising vibration.
Letting go or "detachment" is simply our energy no longer aligning with negativity and so it cannot stay attached to it - it detaches. We cannot force it and we cannot prevent it - it naturally occurs as a bi-product of raising your vibration.
True twin flame bonds are unbreakable - you are one and the same at a soul level. What you are surrendering and letting go of are negative feelings, attachments, expectations, fears, obsession, limiting beliefs that your happiness can only come from your twin, co-dependency etc. You're releasing the illusions, old paradigms and everything that is not serving you and is out of alignment with the truth of the soul.
What is surrender NOT?
Surrender is not about trying to cut the ties, letting go and trying to move on because you believe everything is helpless or because you are angry and are trying to get back at your twin flame or are trying to deny the connection and tell yourself it's all a lie. Unless of course this person really isn't your twin flame. Sometime's it's hard to know if this is your twin or not but all you can know right now is if it feels natural and effortless to surrender and let go or if that feels impossible. In time you will know if this is your twin flame or not. All you can do right now is concentrate on loving yourself and healing yourself from within and then you will naturally fall into surrender and this will open you up more to the possibility of a real reunion. Or if it's not your twin, it will help the connection that is no longer serving you to fall away.
True surrender is about allowing yourself to gravitate towards the energies that feel good - self-empowerment, self-love, emotional independence (i.e. being responsible for your own emotions and happiness but not to the extreme of pushing others away - the key is balance) - and away from the energies that feel bad - co-dependency, fear, doubt, worry, resentment, anger etc.
It's the releasing of all the negativity, illusions and blocks that actually prevent reunion. Sometimes twin flames can hold on too tightly from a place of fear and believing in "lack" and "loss" and the illusion that happiness can only truly happen when physical reunion occurs. These are dense and low vibrations, out of alignment with love. We cannot attract our soul truth of oneness and reunion if we are stuck in illusions. We cannot be open to receiving love if we aren't fully trusting love or trusting we can receive love. Releasing all these blocks is a huge weight off of us so we can rise up an ascend into reunion.
Continue with what feels right for you intuitively and you cannot go wrong. If you are still facing some challenges and want to know how to work with your energies to best help you align with union with your own soul and your twin flame then I really feel my eBook Twin Flame Reunion Manifestation will help you.
Until next time, sending you love light and peace,