Often there's a lot of confusion when it comes applying the Law of Attraction to twin flame connections, especially when it comes to the part about surrendering. It can be confusing to know how to focus on our desires for reunion whilst surrendering at the same time. How does that work?
There's a lot of talk about "letting go", "surrendering", "detaching" and "giving up" but many twins aren't really sure what it all means exactly. Do you stop thinking about them, stop trying, postpone visualizing reunion, give up expectations, move on, keep holding space, turn it over to the Universe completely?
Many of us know the importance of being clear in our visualizations and affirmations in order to begin the process of manifestation. We understand that we're not supposed to know all of the details beforehand as to how our reunion is going to manifest. It's the Universe's job to put all the puzzle pieces together because our reunion involves other people also which are out of our control and there's divine timing which will bring everything together. It's our job to be in our joy in order to raise our vibration to match that of the love vibration so we "merge into one" with it.
But when we focus too heavily on trying to make it happen by trying to control things because a lack of faith that the universe can easily put the puzzle pieces together if we simply get out of our own way, then we fail to realize that we can't force things to happen and in fact we are stepping on our own toes.
When we try to control things and "make it happen" we are locked in this state of confusion. We try to force things but we don't know what we're doing, we don't know exactly what needs to happen for everyone's highest good for reunion to occur. We interfere but we are blind to where we are going or what needs to happen so we keep steering it round and round in circles. We don't make the room to allow the universe to take over and do it's job.
Overthinking about it and holding on too tightly creates further confusion, doubt, anxiety, fear, frustration and a lack of faith. These are all dense and low vibrations and are aligned with a lack of trust so they block the manifestation and send out mixed signals to the universe.
How many of you have tried to handle everything all by yourself and make it happen, getting stressed out the second something "falls out of place" in your connection and then blaming yourself for not being able to hold it all together and push it forward into reunion? We're trying to take on the role of the universe by doing this! It feels like a huge weight on your shoulder's doesn't it? Like it could all slip through your fingers any second, and any time something "slips" you feel so much devastation, so disheartened and like it's all so complicated and hopeless. This is a sign you are taking on too much!
How long have you been trying to "handle everything" in this way? Truly it's not working out this way and is only weighing you down to the point where you feel you can no longer move. Finally, it feels better, a relief to simply drop it all and shout "I give up!" This is the hard way to reach surrender! But I've also been guilty of it!
So how do we surrender exactly and what does it really mean?
Surrendering can be achieved by putting your connection on the back burner, not focusing so much on it for a while, so you can get out of your own way and give the universe the room to do it's job in putting those puzzle pieces together. Surrendering in this way is giving the universe the green light by saying you trust it to take care of your reunion. It means you aren't overthinking everything and feeling stressed out which sends out fear vibrations and a lack of faith into the universe that manifests blocks and delays. You drop all of that and make a to-do list for all the fun things you are going to do for yourself now. You focus on your own life, making it fun, fulfilling and a joy. You focus on your passions outside of your connection and make a wonderful life for yourself so you aren't falsely believing that happiness and fulfillment can only come from reunion. It can mean just stepping away for a while and doing things that are fun ( which is raising your vibration) and making a firm decision not to think about it until you’re inspired to think about it again.
It's not giving up your desires and dreams, it's just focusing on raising your own vibration by being happy and loving yourself to make your own life a top priority. It's a good idea to simply drop focusing on problems and instead turn your thoughts towards things which are pleasing and fill you with joy.
When we say "I give up" it should fill you with a sense of relief. This relief is showing you that you are dropping the problems/density/low vibrations and rising up into a higher vibration. You feel that relief of rising up! This is a good thing!
Your job now is to see reunion as coming easily without you having to worry about it. Drop the idea that reunion is a long and hard journey, a difficult task, complex or anything that creates obstacles. Drop the idea that you must work through a million and one "issues" before you can be ready for reunion. Reunion is as hard or simple as you make it! That is truth! If you are feeling resistant to me saying this and thinking "yeah right" then that's a clear sign that you need to keep focsusing on it being easy and that the universe is handling it until you really believe it. That's how we reprogram the subconscious limiting beliefs into positive and allowing beliefs.
It's like walking from this side of the room to the other side. It was easy and you didn't even have to think about it much, you just did it. Now you need to see your twin flame reunion in the same way - easy. A way to reprogram our mind to see our reunion being easy is to focus on the things that we enjoy rather than focusing on what could be difficult in our experience of manifesting our desire. Focus on the good things, how good it feels, drop the problems or worrying about how they are going to be resolved. Just focus on the good, see it happening now.
There's so many things in life which we would consider extremely complex and difficult but come so naturally and easily to the universe. Take the creation of a baby for example from conception all the way through to birth. Do we have to consciously focus on making all those "puzzle pieces" join up from day to day, month to month to make that embryo into the baby ready to be born? Do we have to control it all, force it's lungs to grow, pump the blood around the body through trying to focus so heavily on it all the time? Of course not, nature takes over, we are the vehicle in which it can grow and manifest but we don't have to control it or know exaclty how everything is developing.
There are countless examples of things we have very limited understanding of and yet they come so naturally to our planet and the universe, so they just happen without us needing to interfere. Our twin flame connections are the same!
Try taking any issue and say to yourself, "I’m no longer going to see this as huge. It’s all going to resolve itself as easily as I expect it to." Then, say to yourself and the Universe, “I give up. It’s handled. Thank you for taking good care of this for me. I can’t wait to see how this actually plays out.” Then feel the relief! Feel the joy that you no longer have to worry and that everything is handled! Feels so good! Expect it to be handled with ease rather than struggle and then go off and focus on creating joy in your life.
If you can focus only upon the beautiful end result, the joy, happiness and love in as much detail as makes you feel good, then release the worries, then any obstacles will begin to take care of themselves in that instant.
It’s amazing how quickly things can turn around for the better and begin truly manifesting when we refocus our minds! My eBook Twin Flame Reunion Manifestation explains all about this. We have much more control over our destinies than we reality. The trick is to realize that we are Co-Creators with the universe so we must understand what our role is in order to consciously manifest reunion rather than unconsciously creating blocks by default.
Until next time, Love and Light on your journey!