It is often very obvious what a runner's fears are - the fear of intimacy, of being vulnerable and open in case they are rejected and abandoned. Often it stems from childhood and also past lives. They learned to believe that they are not good enough just the way they are and so they choose to leave before the other leaves them - it seems less painful that way.
Well most chasers have the exact same wounds - fear of rejection and abandonment as well as the belief that they are not good enough. The difference is, it APPEARS that the chaser wants intimacy, but in truth they are just as afraid of it. Deep down both the twins want the intimacy but neither are ready to fully align with the oneness energetically - there's too many wounds about feeling abandoned (separated) from those they loved and were supposed to love them. This fear and belief in separation is the deep subconscious illusion that keeps BOTH twin's unable to embrace intimacy and oneness with each other until they have both healed the wound within.
A chaser may believe they want intimacy but in many, many cases, deep down they knew their "chaser" actions would push their twin flame away, but it's almost like they couldn't stop themselves... They felt energetically drawn to chase and push the runner away because they were magnetically aligned with those beliefs of separation and so felt driven subconsciously to create that belief into reality.
Many twins have the belief that love always leaves, slips through their fingers, is impossible and so subconsciously they created situations to confirm that belief. The chaser twin also has a fear about being unworthy and so subconsciously push their twin away. Whatever we believe about ourselves, consciously or subconsciously, we create in our reality through our actions and then the belief solidifies even more.
A part of us may believe that we are always rejected, abandoned, abused, whatever... and that the universe is unfair, but deep down we were just reaffirming our own limiting beliefs about ourselves and love.
Deep down we subconsciously recreate the wounds we experienced in childhood and try to resolve them outwardly with other people and especially with our twin flame. We try to get a positive outcome from the same type of situation we experienced in childhood to prove we are worthy after all. So if we felt like we were rejected or unseen, unloved etc by parents, then we will keep creating the same scenario of feeling rejected in other relationships, but this time around we subconsciously push the person away by chasing them to fix our wounds. We try to get that person to come back and commit and prove we are worthy.
This kind of scenario is indicating that we need to heal these wounds within ourselves but have subconsciously been trying to heal it outwardly with others - but then it doesn't turn out how we hoped which then leads to even less self-esteem and a deeper belief in the limiting expectations surrounding love and our worth. But the healing never occurs from the outside in, it must be from the inside out and people cannot commit to you when you repeat this old cycle because you are still the same lower vibration and therefore can only attract the same experience over and over until you change your vibration within. This is the Law of Attraction in action.
What your soul is yearning for you to do now is the inner healing work, for you to know your worth and heal those wounds of abandonment and rejection. It starts with truly understanding on all levels that everything you need to be happy and fulfilled comes from within and then it can reflect back to you on the outside too.
Many of you have probably heard me mention Bob Proctor's seminar's before and I will mention them again here. They are available to view on YouTube here. They are called "You Were Born Rich" but they aren't just about money - they go into great depth about the Law of Attraction and how we subconsciously attract exactly what we don't want when we still have limiting beliefs going on in our subconscious minds. I feel these seminars will really help you understand what's going on in your subconscious that keeps manifesting the same love situations over and over and how to break that cycle.
If you are experiencing this dynamic within your own twin flame connection and past relationships then I feel your next step forward is to really get to the root of these limiting beliefs and bring them to the surface so you can know they are there and work on shifting them. Firstly, I suggest you get out a pen and paper and write down all the limiting beliefs you have that you can think of surrounding love, your worth, your relationship experiences (and what that's lead you to expect), twin flames in general, your twin flame etc. You will be surprised at what comes up - some limiting beliefs will appear that you didn't consciously realize you had. See how they've been manifesting, or how you have subconsciously recreated these beliefs in your connection and life. You might be surprised.
Knowledge is power and the discovery of your limiting beliefs and how you've subconsciously contributed to recreating them in your reality is the key to personal power. You can begin to shift your beliefs through working with the Law of Attraction and this will assist you to create what you are truly wanting. I have created a FREE Law of Attraction Meditation here: Daily Manifestation Meditation
Your twin flame is your mirror. The wounds you have experienced in this connection are to show you what your limiting subconscious beliefs are that need healing and shifting. This is also why we cannot play the blame game with our twin - they mirror exactly what we need to heal and in this way they are our greatest teacher and guide.
Once we do the healing work we will be energetically aligned with the love vibration in order to attract a healthy reunion.
If you would like further guidance to realize your deep subconscious blocks that are blocking you from a happy and healthy reunion with your twin flame then I will be more than happy to create a personal reading for you. You can book a reading with me here: Book A Reading
As always, love and light on your journey,