Hi Beautiful Twins!
I hope you are having a lovely week.
I've just bought a new set of cards which I am so excited to use in this mini twin flame reading! They are the True Love Reading Cards by Belinda Grace and Lori Banks. They are just so beautiful and full of the bright colours that I love :-)
But before I get into the reading I would just like to announce that I have some new audio meditations that are very helpful for healing any blockages that may be getting in the way of harmonious reunion with your twin flame. The two new meditations are Healing Violet Flame Meditation and the Spirit Guide Healing Meditation which can both be purchased from my Store Page
Twin Flame Mini Reading 25th April 2017
Many feminine twin flames take it very personally when their masculline has boundaries up. But in truth, they are trying to protect themselves - it doesn't mean they don't love you. The twin flame connection is here to break through all the limitations within both the masculine and feminine archetypes, blending them into one true embodiment of soul. So many masculine twins experience the fears of being vulnerable and open because they chose to incarnate here purposefully to work through these very issues to assist humanity rise out of them.
Some masculine twin flames put up boundaries when the feminine tries to force his walls down. Many feminine twins are socially conditioned to express emotions more openly and sometimes they can believe the masculine should be able to do that just as easily, but the masculine has been specifically taught to NOT express emotion, they've been stigmatized for doing so and therefore their subconscious now believes that it's not safe to do that. They can feel as though it's immasculating them if they express too much emotion and they can fear that the feminine would be turned off by that.
Some masculine twin flames are working on releasing their boundaries which are isolating them and they are consciously working on their healing to become more comfortable being vulnerable. This takes time. Spirit is saything that they are learning to balance ther boundaries, putting them up for people who are unhealthy for them, whilst simulateously learning to lower them for the people who are for their highest good. In the past there was some confusion and distrust about who to let the boundaries down for and who to put them up against.
The trouble is, many feminine's have been taught by society to believe they need a man to provide their happiness for them (think traditional Disney). This is an imossible task for any man - we cannot make anyone happy if they are not happy within themselves. But many feminine's throughout their life have unrealistic expectations that the mascuine cannot fulfill. So the masculine received a lot of resentment and blame from a lot of women from many lifetimes.
Boundaries are about developing a healthy sense of self - you know what your truth is and so you know what you feel comfortable experiencing in your life and what makes you feel uncomfortable. When we have poor or no healthy boundaries it means we are accepting things which in truth we are not comfortable with or we are doing / saying things which are not in alignment with our truth. For example, when I had my initial awakening I was so afraid that other's would judge me if they knew what I really believed in. So I tried to pretend to be like everyone else. I used to say a lot of dirty jokes just to make out I was shallow and crude so no-one would have any idea about the real spiritual me developing below my facade.
Another example of poor boundaries could also be laughing along with the crowd who is making fun of their co-worker but deep down you feel guilty and sorry for that co-worker, yet you laugh along because you fear not fitting in and you are afraid of being judged. This is a sign that you are not strong in your own power and individuality and therefore you hide your truth as to not rock the boat and stand out. You are hiding from shining your truth.
But many masculine twin flames are now working through these issues and are wanting to be authentic. They are feeling tired of just playing along and feeling drained by that - because it is very draining to keep playing a role when energetically it feels like a heavy weight that's dragging you down. It can also make you feel even more lonely when you try to play along with the crowd and yet no-one really knows you at all. Sometimes it's when we are surrounded by many people and yet we feel there's an invisible barrier between us and them, then it feels lonelier than when you are alone. It's that in-between stage of falling out of resonance with those we used to resonate with and feeling like a secret pariah before we truly build up our self-esteem to live and express more of our truth. Then the people who no longer resonate will fall away but at the same time your authencity allows you to attract those who will resonate with you.
Another aspect of creating healthy boundaries that some of the masculine are achieving right now is going back to doing the things they love which they had been neglecting as they lost themselves to the twin flame connection and all the upheaval of this awakening process.
We can mistakenly believe our unhappiness is about not being with our twin but really it's about us not being fully at peace and aligned with our soul truth within. When we are looking to our twin flame and we aren't physically together it can create a sense of separation. But this is merely a reflection of how we are believing in separation in all kinds of ways - i.e. believing we are separate from happiness or love or oneness and that we need to grab hold of them from our external world in order to become whole, when in truth we are already all of those things. It's only when we commit to remembering we have everything we need inside of us, we can then feel at peace, drop the fear and controlling and then attract our truth of oneness, love and joy.
The commitment lies within the willingness to change our perceptions from a lack mentality into a oneness mentality. It can be scary at first to trust in this truth because we've been conditioned to be pessimistic and lack in faith. The commitment is to trust in our heart and not the conditioning of the mind. The commitment is to break that old limiting pattern in order for our truth to be revealed and manifested.
This new faith allows the feminine to commit to the twin flame connection by opening her heart more instead of hiding it away and thinking "I will only fully open my heart when I know there is a guarantee of reunion." Dropping the fears by commiting to become so fulfilled in our own lives, allows us to trust more that reunion is coming and to trust that no-matter what happens, we will still be happy as long as we have found that happiness within.
Joint Energy: Resolving Conflict
Some masculine twin flames are like the imagery in this card. If we look closely at the card it shows the masculine feeling depressed in his dark cave. He's not fully loving himself. He's feeling isolated and that he needs to isolate himself. There are fears of not being able to free himself and theres' a lot of slef-blame and self-criticism going on which are zapping his energies even more. He's trying to work out how to make things better but sometimes he's feeling dishearted and hopeless and guilty because he believes he's holding the feminine back. But he is not holding the feminine back! This is the divinely orchestrated way in which our souls agreed that the feminine would be motivated to step back into her personal power.
If the feminine has co-dependency and is looking to the masculine to make her happy, fill in her voids, fix her wounds of abandonment and rejection, make her experience love etc and then the masculine comes in and commits to the feminine and is fully open and intimate and gives her everything she *thinks* she wants (because in truth her soul wants healing from within herself) then she would not have this time and space to really do the healing work within herself that SHE NEEDS and is the WHOLE POINT of the masculine being unavaiable at this time. The whole point of the masculine not being available is so the feminine can have this time to overcome co-dependency and take back her personal power to concentrate on loving herself and making her own life amazing whilst becoming emotionally independent. The masculine is not ready because the feminine is not ready until she has done the work within which is needed. Many feminine twin's blame the masculine, but they are a reflection of ourselves. many masculine twin's mistakenly believe also, that they are wrong, or weak, or incompetant, but really they are peforming their role, their job, their gift to the feminine PERFECTLY!! This then allows the feminine to heal an therefore opens up the space for the masculine to heal.
Both the maculine and feminine are realising that conflicts that have triggered them both are opportunities to discover themselves better and highlight what they need to heal within themselves. Whenever we feel triggered it's our own reaction to things which ceate our pain. We may believe it's the other person hurting us, but in truth, it's our own reaction - our own way of seeing the experience (often as a rejection) that hurts us. But if we were fully healed and loving ourselves then no-one could have the power to hurt us emotionally - we wouldn't take it personally. We would consider any conflict or triggering to be an opportunity to see what limiting beliefs we are subcconsciously holding onto that are reflecting back to us due to the law of attraction.
The feminine twin flames are releasing resentment by realising it's not the masculine's job to complete them, but to trigger them to complete themselves. Many deeper insights of this nature are coming up to the surface and allowing the resentments to heal and the connection to flow more harmoniously and in alignment with truth.
I hope my reading has been enlightening for you! Thank you so much for joining me. If you would like a personal reading with me where I will look deeply into the energies going on within you both, between the two of you and also give you guidance on how to heal yourself and take the next steps forward into greater harmony, then I would be delighted to do a reading for you. You can book here.
Until next time, Love and Light to you!