Many people ask me, "How can I fully trust that reunion will happen? How can I fully open my heart to this? I might start to believe and then it doesn't work out. I will be heartbroken."
But the truth is, we may not know what is in store for us or what is for our highest good in the future. Physical reunion may or may not be part of the plan for our highest good. I believe we are meant to learn to fully trust in the POSSIBILITY of reunion if that is for our highest good, but also trust that if reunion does not occur then that is for our highest good. It's all about being in the present moment and releasing attachment, continuing to ask yourself is this connection for my highest good right now? Are you getting anything out of the connection right now or not? And I don't mean the physical connection, but is your soul growing from this connection? Is it helping you to evolve, awaken, heal, see beyond the matrix illusions?
There's some confusion surrounding this, especially when it comes to the law of attraction. "Aren't I supposed to believe 100% that I will unite with my twin flame in order for it to manifest?" Yes and no. Yes, it's good to believe that reunion will happen if it's for your highest good, but also stay open to the possibility that your highest good may not involve reunion.
This isn't about giving up on reunion, but it's all about releasing the attachment and becoming okay with the possibility that reunion might not happen. That's how we release the fears which actually prevent it from happening if it's meant to. Attachment creates fear of loss. We begin to believe we NEED this to be happy. This is a dangerous place to be because we can start basing our whole life and happiness around this, around the external needing to be a particular way. And then it will manifest in a totally different way than we want it to just to trigger us so we release the attachment to allow the universe to bring us our highest good.
Some of you may be wondering "Why should I hold on if there's a possiblity that reunion won't happen?" But that's the key, this connection isn't about "holding on" in the hopes of future reunion, it's about enjoying the present moment, appreciating your connection right now. Holding on implies attachment, but appreciating the connection exactly as it is allows it to unfold how it wants to unfold. It's never about putting your life on hold. And I must note that in saying this I am not saying you need to date others, unless that what feels right for you.
If reunion doesn't happen we must release the idea that it's a mistake. Nothing is a mistake. It may mean we need to learn something before reunion can occur. It may mean it's not part of our soul contract to happen. But many twin flames fear "fucking up" and blaming themselves but this is to misunderstand how everything is an opportunity for growth and eventually leads us to our highest good.
So it's okay to affirm to yourself, "I am open for reunion with my twin flame or whatever is for my highest good". This way, you are believing in reunion as a possibility, but also you are not in resistance to your highest good coming to you in the way it's supposed to. This also helps you to release fear that your highest good has to be from reunion. You are allowing yourself to go with the flow.
Still, many twin flames are scared to believe reunion could possibly happen. They are afraid to trust and then it not happen. They are afraid of the emotional pain that will come up if things don't work out in the way they hoped. But our emotional pain is based on the stories we attach to events. I will say that again - OUR EMOTIONAL PAIN IS BASED ON THE STORIES WE ATTACH TO EVENTS. So if reunion didn't happen, how would you end up blaming yourself, or telling yourself it didn't happen because you are unworthy, or because the universe is unfair, or because you can't trust in love, or that it didn't happen because you are unlovable...? What ways would you hurt yourself by these false beliefs? This is what you are fearing - your own stories.
Those of us who are fearing to fully trust in the possibility of reunion and therefore are afraid to open our hearts 100%, are really JUST AFRAID OF THE PAINFUL STORIES WE WOULD TELL OURSELVES AS TO WHY REUNION DIDN'T HAPPEN. We are afraid of feeling like we failed somehow and that the lack of reunion is a reflection of our worth. That's what we are truly afraid of. But the good news is our thoughts are under our control and are our own responsibility.
Many are wanting proof that reunion will definitely happen before fully committing and opening their heart. Other's are trying to become perfect in order to feel worthy enough so that reunion is a guarantee. Neither of these methods are realistic - they are illusion and reunion cannot occur in the vibration of illusion.
So what's the solution? How do we learn to release our fears of trusting in reunion 100% so we can fully open our hearts and become fearless? It's about changing the stories we tell ourselves when things don't go to plan or manifest differently to what we expected. It's about healing the tendency to blame ourselves or falsely believe we are unworthy and that's why things don't happen how we planned. Once that negative, self-blaming and self-destructive voice is transformed into a loving, nurturing and trusting one, we will no longer be afraid of what happens in the unknown future, because we will no longer be blaming ourselves and beating ourselves up.
We need to come to a place where we truly believe that no matter what happens it IS for our highest good - it's not a punishment for being unworthy. It means there's some other plan which is for our highest good. Then the future is not scary because we know what's best for us is always coming our way even if we don't understand it at the time.
Yes, in the moment when something happens in a way we didn't want it to we can feel afraid, disappointed, hurt etc but it's because we cannot see the bigger picture. But this pain will soon pass if we have created the solid belief that our highest good is always unfolding and the universe has our back. We must learn to develop this trust if we are truly to surrender and allow our highest good to flow to us without our resistance of fear and trying to control things or steer things.
We must also create a firm understanding that wounding happens to provide us with the opportunity to look into that area within us more deeply and heal and strengthen that area within ourselves. If we are resisting our fears of feeling pain in some way or in some area of our life then that is exactly what we need to work through. If we refuse to face our fears then we will manifest those fears in the external to force us to work on healing them. The more we resist it the more we manifest it. Whatever THOUGHTS or events which stimulate our negative thoughts about ourselves in some way, that make us feel uncomfortable or in pain are the very things we need to work on healing.
What are your biggest fears when it comes to this connection and your twin flame? Now what thoughts / stories are you / will you make up that hurt you if your biggest fear were to come true? How do your fears really boil down to the pain you will inflict on yourself if your worst nightmare were to happen? You see, all of your pain is really about YOU, about how you percieve things to be a negative reflection of you in some way. And it's in your control if you can put in the time and effort to really dig deep to unearth the core wound that you keep inflicting upon yourself. We often take things as "proof" of what we secretly think about ourselves, but really they are just manifestations of our beliefs into the physical.
Stop taking disapponting or hurtful circumstances as a reflection of your worth and start realising it's a reflection of the limiting beliefs we need to heal within.
So we need to ask ourselves, why do we fear reunion not happening? What hurtful meaning would we pin to that? This shows us exactly what we need to shift. It's all about us knowing our worth, knowing we are always good enough. Until we remember this, we will keep manifesting triggers until we eventually come to this realisation. We are subconsciously giving away our power by believing we can be emotionally hurt by external circumstances, but we reclaim our power when we realise it's our own thoughts, which we DO have control over (with perserverance) and therefore we can CHOOSE to empower ourselves rather than disempower ourselves.
We need to actively embrace our fear and OWN IT. Don't let it own you!
As always, Love and Light to you!