For many years I have known about Eckhart Tolle's book The Power of Now, but for the same amount of time it had been sitting unread in my Kindle. I guess my soul wasn't fully ready to align and deeply understand the wisdom within these texts just yet. I had watched a few of his videos and read a few articles over the years, all of which were extremely enlightening and helpful, but only has it been recently that I have become ready to read the book and fully embrace Eckhart's wisdom. (I must say that before I go on I am in no way sponsored to talk about this book!)
Upon reading the book I was amazed at how it mirrored much of the wisdom I had tapped into over the years from my own soul. But reading the book has helped me to make deeper sense of the truths I had found within, helped me to join the dots and find the missing puzzle pieces in order to create a whole picture.
The book talks in great detail about the false self or ego - identity that veils the truth of our soul, our authentic being or presence. The ego self builds up a collection of thoughts based on external experiences to create a mental image of ourselves - our self -image. It can create many different beliefs about who we are based on what's happened to us in our lives, i.e. looking outwardly to try and measure who we are. But who we really are, our soul, is not determined by our mind, the world around us or who we THINK we are. Our true self becomes lost beneath the chatter of the mind. We begin to define ourselves based on the mind's judgement and (lack of) understanding of the world.
For example, if someone breaks our heart our ego will tell us it's because we are unlovable or unworthy. Our ego will then store that belief as a picture of who we are. Equally, through the experience of heartbreak our mind can store up an image of the universe being unfair or unjust and that becomes a mental image we hold about the universe. Then our whole outlook of ourselves and life becomes distorted. We begin seeing everything through distorted mental images and mistakenly believe them to be true. But they are just a judgement our ego created about ourselves and the world.
The truth of who we really are becomes totally distorted when we associate too much with the mind. All sorts of social and family conditioning also create an endless stream of beliefs and judgement that are from the mind and are not of the truth left hidden beneath it.
Many of us know that we must now clear, purge and heal the old wounds, illusions and blocks - basically the distorted image of self created by the ego, the false self, to make way for the true soul within to emerge. But we often totally misunderstand how to go about doing this healing. Our ego tells us that we must sift through every single wound or area which requires healing, that we must dissect our mind and shine light and love into every hidden crevice of the shadows, using a fine tooth-comb to unearth everything that is not in alignment with our true soul self.
Have you noticed how utterly exhausting that is? Do you often feel overwhelmed by such a mammoth task? Does it feel like the healing is never ending? Do you feel it's hopeless because when you heal one aspect of yourself it feels like a mere drop in the ocean of what is still left to sift through and bring into the light? Do you feel doubtful that you will ever fully heal? Do you feel that twin flame reunion (which is truly reunion with your own true soul) is always stuck somewhere in the future because there's still a mountain of stuff to be cleared? Does a part of your ego use that as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone, i.e. "I can't get close to my twin yet because I'm not healed enough yet."
I have felt all of these things when it comes to healing ad reaching enlightenment. In truth, no healing method really seemed to fully resonate with me - it's always felt like the healing was only touching at the surface at best even when I did persevere with it. It always felt as though the bigger picture, the bigger truth of what would really heal was missing, the healing puzzle was patchy and incomplete. Okay, so some healing techniques I have adopted along the way have been helpful for me, but only to a certain degree. It always felt like struggle, a bit hopeless because like I said, it was only healing a grain of sand when I had a whole beach to heal.
It all felt a bit hopeless and like I was scratching around in the dark to find the light, confused and overwhelmed. I felt like I was healing at a snail pace and it has only been upon reading the wisdom within The Power of Now that I realized it's because our ego tricks us into believing we have to understand everything, every little wounded part of ourselves and sift through it all individually in order to heal. The book explains how this is the ego's way of keeping us gripped by it so it can stay alive. The mind wants to understand everything but the real understanding comes from stepping back from the mind and allowing the wisdom of our soul to shine through.
The wisdom within The Power of Now resonates with me very deeply. I feel it is more aligned with how to FULLY heal, to see the bigger picture and work with healing the bigger picture. The mind likes to complicate everything, the truth within the book is simple. I truly do believe that aligning with our light, our truth, our soul and healing illusion is FAR easier than our ego likes us to think.
If you believe that healing is a struggle, that it's never-ending and you're feeling hopeless then it's because you are too aligned with the mind. The true way to heal this and align with your true authentic self is to become the observer of your thoughts and feelings. Whenever you think something negative about yourself try to catch yourself doing that. Be the true you, the one beyond the thoughts of the mind. Also do the same whenever you experience a negative emotion - know that the true you is not defined by your thoughts or emotions. When you step out of the ego self and recognize whenever you think or feel something negative, you begin to dissolve the association of "you" being your mind. Then you become more aware of the illusion and it dissolves. This frees you to become more conscious - your soul comes up to the surface more and you align with your authentic presence in this way.
The ego likes you to believe that you ARE the wounding itself, that's just you, and it's afraid of dying, so we can subconsciously hold onto the pain and illusions for as long as possible to keep our sense of self alive.
The following is an excerpt from the book:
Interviewer: "I feel there is still a great deal I need to understand about the workings of my mind before I can get anywhere near full consciousness or spiritual enlightenment."
Eckhart: "No you don't. The problems of the mind cannot be solved on the level of the mind. Once you've understood the basic dysfunction there isn't really much else you need to learn or understand. Studying the complexity of the mind may make you a good psychologist but doing so won't take you beyond the mind, just as the study of madness isn't enough to create sanity. You have already understood the basic mechanics of the unconscious state, identification of the mind which creates a false sense of self, the ego, as a substitute to your true self rooted in being ... The ego's needs are endless -it feels vulnerable and threatened and so lives in a state of fear and want. Once you know how the basic dysfunction operates, there's no need to explore all it's countless manifestations, no need to make it into a complex personal problem. The ego of course loves that - it is always seeking for something to attach itself to in order to uphold and strengthen it's illusory sense of self and it will readily attach itself to your problems. This is why for so many people the large part of their sense of self is intimately connected with their problems. Once this has happened the last thing they want is to become free of them - that would mean loss of self. There can be a great deal of unconscious ego-investment in pain and suffering. So once you recognize the root of unconsciousness as identification with the mind, which of course includes the emotions, you step out of it, you become present. When you are present you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is not dysfunctional, it is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek yourself in it and mistake it for who you are. It then becomes the egoic mind and takes over your whole life."
When it comes to aligning with our authentic self, it's not about looking into each and every minute or big thing that we tell ourselves we have to heal individually - that would take forever. It's about realizing the truth that the mind is not who we are, the self-image that ego created is not who we are. It's about coming to this OVERALL understanding and working to recognize when the false identity comes up so we can go about healing this and aligning with who we really are in this simple and universal way.
So to repeat the main point: We don't have to heal every single thing we feel has hurt us over the years and caused us to have a poor self-image, or the stereotypes of the world around us that have affected us. When we continue to catch out the ego by looking to our true presence, or the one who observes the ego, we are no longer bound to the illusion that we are the ego and that we must understand everything in order to move on from (heal) it.
Isn't this far more liberating and effective than trying to heal and understand everything single little thing from this lifetime, other lifetimes, how your mother made you feel abandoned, how your father made you feel rejected, how your ex made you feel unworthy so on and so on. For each of these wounds there could be countless branches leading off in all different directions in which you experienced this pain and where it stemmed from. Trying to heal everything by examining it all is like trying to look through and dissect every single part of a tree in order to understand it - all it's thousands leaves, blossom petals, all the the individual veins on the leaves, every curve of the bark, the growth rings, the water it's soaked up, the amount of minerals in the water, all the branches and twigs and trying to understand their correlation to each other, where did this one stem from, where does that one go to, what does this mean? The roots and how they all branch off, the seeds that are scattered, where do they all go, what do they create, how do they link to other trees, what characteristics are passed on through the "bloodline", the atoms within all the trees that stem from the one tree, etc etc etc to dissect every atom of the tree and understand it all - it goes on forever!
If the healing path has felt incredibly overwhelming, impossible, futile - then it's because you have been going about it the wrong way, the impossible way rather than seeing the bigger picture. Make the healing simple, become your soul observing the illusions of the mind.
I hope this comes as light at the end of the tunnel, as a huge weight off your shoulders and gives you hope that true healing is possible in a far more simple and effective way.
As always, love and light to you,