I am not meaning this article to come across as condescending or arrogant in any way because I have been through this exact same confusion in the past. For 7 years I believed TOTALLY that my false twin was the real deal. I was 100% sure that he was when in fact I was far more naive than I realized. But how could I have known any better at that time? I did not know what real love was or what a real twin flame was, until I met my real twin that is about a decade later when I was far more experienced, awakened and wiser. So I am not bashing anyone for thinking an abusive connection is their true twin flame - I've been there done that. A false twin flame can break you open into such an INTENSE awakening, connect you with God and with your true soul self on such a PROFOUND level that naturally you could be forgiven for thinking this in "the one", that this is your twin. I TOTALLY understand the confusion and with this article I hope to help you by clearing up any confusion because at times the fine line between the false twin and the real twin can seem blurry, until you look a bit deeper and see there are in fact clear distinctions between the two.
True twin flames meet when they are at a high enough vibration to return to love and abuse is therefore no part of that equation. Yes to begin with there can be some "game playing" or ego battles but it's never downright abuse once you've got to the stage of meeting a real twin.
When we so desperately want to believe this abusive person is our true twin flame (to try and fix our abandonment issues by hoping they will miraculously change themselves around completely just to commit to us and prove to us that we are so utterly and completely lovable because we've forgotten to believe that about ourselves)... we will likely twist their abusive and careless actions in our minds into some delusion that this is their way of showing just how much they love us!
With a real twin flame it's okay not to know at first whether they are your real twin or not because there's often so much illusion and ego to release before our truth can shine through in the shape of heart-based intuition. But eventually you will just know they are your real twin flame.
With your true twin flame you will have your differences - different interests, hobbies, personalities, jobs for example, but you will share the same core values. One may have a very "spiritual" job helping others and the other may assist with people's health and development in a different kind of way - charity work, nutritionist, simply spreading love and light in a way that compliments who they are etc, perhaps not even in the form of a job but just in their day to day life - there's no set rules. Both will feel an overall passion and drive to serve others, to heal themselves, to return to love and soul truth and union within themselves and with each other.
Yes, at first with a real twin they / we can be oblivious on some level but there's always a deep undercurrent of a magnetic pull drawing us into "something much bigger" than our old way of seeing life. It can take time to consciously become aware that we are being pulled into awakening and we can resist out of fear and misunderstanding for a while but overall there is a pull whether we consciously realize it or not, whether we resist it or embrace it. A falsie will feel no pull into "something bigger". But real twin flames we cannot be asleep forever. The awakening, the magnetic pull becomes stronger and stronger until eventually it is so OBVIOUS that we cannot deny it any longer or fight our own destiny.
There's also a sense of coming home with the real twin, feeling understood, seen, heard, recognized for your unique beauty, appreciated, united, one. You no longer feel lonely, you know you are always connected, always loved exactly as you are, that you are always travelling this journey with your divine companion right by your side. There is no separation, only unity and oneness.
True twin flames do trigger each other BUT there is always a undercurrent of love as the driving force behind this tool for purging, healing and growth. You may want to cut the ties at times with the true twin out of frustration and pain but it's never because the connection is toxic or feels "dangerous" or damaging or because your soul is yelling at you "GET OUT!" True twin flame connections cannot be severed because they are the oneness of true love whereas the ties between false twin flames will be cut off by our soul WHEN we have returned to self-love and the realization that we are much more worthy than to accept this abuse. Usually the false twin ties are broken when we realize and finally accept that they will not fill in the voids we were hoping they would, when we realize that we CAN survive without them.
With a true twin flame your connection continues to improve. The more you heal, the more harmonious your connection becomes. Optimism increases as the fear-based illusions dissolve.
In a true twin flame connection sex is not the glue that holds you together at all - it's love. You may not have even had sex with each other ever and although there is a desire to make love it is not the most important aspect of your connection, again that's the love, the growth, the emotional fulfillment of truly being seen and loved and appreciated for who you really are.
The real twin flame connection does have it's ups and downs but it is still far more harmonious than the false twin connection.
I hope this information has been helpful. But if you are still feeling confused and unsure then I recommend booking a in depth reading with me in order to really dig deeply into your connection, the energies and the wounds which are playing out. We really do attract our mirror image whether it's a false twin flame or a real twin. I can help you understand what you need to heal and how to heal those areas within yourself so that you are vibrating at a high frequency in order to attract a connection for your highest good or bring back harmony in a true twin flame connection. I offer 15, 30 & 60 minute video or email readings to cater to all needs and budgets. If you would like to book a reading or find out more then click here.
As always, Love and Light to you,