How do you reach union with your twin..? By reaching union with yourself. What does this mean? Union with self is when we embody our soul truth in human form i.e. we can see beyond our conditioning, illusions and ego created false-self to align with our divine soul consciousness - to know we are pure, innocent, lovable and perfectly divine even with our human imperfections.
Union with self is the state of embracing both our divinity and our humanness and merging them into one, embodying both aspects of the self in Love. It's the state of alchemy we reach when we are no longer controlled by the conditioning that takes us away from self-Love and Oneness with Love. The state of self-union opens up the door to union with our twin flame because as within, so without and as above, so below.
But the crucial thing to understand is that union with self is the most important goal on this journey, more important than union with your twin flame because a) self-union leads to true wholeness and within (not the superficial kind of "wholeness" of looking outside of ourselves to our twin to fill in a void), b) we cannot achieve union with our twin until we have created union within, and c) union with self becomes the inspiration for others to do the same in order to reach their own true wholeness and dissolving bit by bit the collective paradigm of codependency. This leads us to more worldwide peace.
Our goal for incarnating on Earth is to assist the shift back into REAL Love. This means our soul's top priority is to unite with our truth that we ARE Love, that we are lovable and worthy of Love. We come here to break through the illusion of being separate from Love i.e. the idea that we are "unworthy" of Love because as humans we are inherently flawed and that makes us "bad" and therefore "not good enough" for Love. We are here to learn to unconditionally Love ourselves with all these "flaws" and realize we purposely chose to incarnate with such flaws so there would be further room for growth and expansion. We set ourselves a challenge - "When I incarnate on Earth, take on all the amnesia so I forget my divine perfection, become blinded by the illusions and conditioning which tells me I am unworthy, can I then break through those illusions to return again to self realization, self-Love, thus helping the collective to return to self-Love and self-union?"
This process allows us to return to the realization that we are Co-Creators, that we can choose to create more Love in our reality by reconnecting with the Love that we are, the Love that is always here but we simply couldn't see because of the illusions.
When we are totally immersed in the conditioning - the false message that we are unworthy -we are drowning in the shadows of anxiety and fear without even realizing how much it is controlling us. We are so engulfed in illusion that we can't see just how much we are operating from the separation paradigm and that it's blocking us from aligning with both union within and union with our twin flame.
Deep down a part of us knows that we are all One, we are all connected. That's Love, the connector of all things. But on this plane of duality we have mistakenly believed we are separate from our true state of Oneness, separated from Love. We conclude that we have been separated from Love because we are unworthy of receiving it. We then believe that we must earn the right to be loved to be reconnected with it again.
We naturally want to become whole again in feeling that we are Loved, seeking the Oneness that Love provides, searching for the Love we mistakenly believe is "missing". Most of our senses teach us to look outside of ourselves, so naturally we assume that being Loved, becoming Oneness and whole again means we must find the missing Love outside of ourselves.
We conclude that the way to find the Love is by molding ourselves to "fit in" with those around us, to feel like an accepted member of the group or society. We want to feel that sense of belonging and we mistakenly believe that by changing ourselves to fit in we will have "earned" the right to be Loved and feel One again. But in reality, when we go down that path we lose ourselves even more, and feel even more disconnected from Love because we have entered a period of self-judgement, comparison and lack of self-Love.
The constant pull to fit in with and be accepted by everyone becomes so intense that any slight (the tiniest, tiniest!) indication that we don't fit in with the collective can make us believe there's something wrong with us, that we are unlovable, "cut off" and "an outsider".
This fear of "being cut off" from acceptance (Love) causes us to lose sight that Love comes from within - we are always the Love within and when we reconnect with it from within it will show up on the outside too. This illusion of being separated from Love becomes a toxic shroud engulfing us to the point where we are so afraid of outside "rejection" that we begin molding ourselves into strangers that we don't even recognize. The masks become so automatic that we forget ourselves, our true worth more and more as time goes on. "Who am I again?" We no longer know.
So how do we get back to ourselves, to the Love that we are, the Love that we always connected with, so THEN it can show up on the outside too as a reflection of our joy and sense of worth? It's only through conscious effort to go inwards to reconnect with this truth, reunite with our true consciousness - conscious awareness of our worth and lovableness - that we can finally break down the illusions, the shroud that's robbed us of our confidence, self-love and empowerment for so long.
When we consciously connect with our soul truth of Love and worthiness so we can see beyond the false-identity, we reach a HUGE breakthrough! We begin ALIGNING with our true identity, our divinity, our absolute worthiness of Love. We begin to see how lovable we are and have always been no matter what we have done in life or how we've judged ourselves as being unworthy of Love. Our confidence begins returning and we liberate ourselves from the constant fear of rejection because we no longer look outside of ourselves for that false validation - we don't need to - we now see the truth of who we really are from looking within.
We finally know how to Love ourselves and we step out of the false identity fearlessly, embracing and embodying more of our divine self which naturally loves and embraces the divine "imperfections" and UNIQUENESS of our human self.
This huge shift into powerful self-love aligns us again with the Love vibration that we have constantly been seeking. We reunite with ourselves. This allows us to RECEIVE Love and also receive UNION with our twin flame as a reflection of the self-union now attained.
Recently I have really begun experiencing this HUGE BREAKTHROUGH. It's really powerful! Whenever I did healing work on myself in the past I would experience some healing but it would only scratch the surface or the healing seemed very minimal. Deep down I still felt quite lost like I couldn't quite pin down the source of my wounding and feelings of unworthiness that had plagued me my whole life. I felt trapped in my wounds and fears and could not see any way out. Yes, I was making small steps along my healing path but I still felt like I was walking in the dark, not being able to see clearly the way forward.
My twin triggered something within me, feelings of rejection, abandonment and being cut off from his Love and therefore triggering the illusion that I was cut off from God/Source Love. But it caused a chain reaction within me this time - I was finally ready to align with this most powerful breakthrough, more powerful than I have ever experienced. No longer was it just my intellectual mind that understood that I am lovable - I finally aligned with this truth on all levels and I actually BECAME the Love I have for myself, the Love that I am. I no longer saw it as a distant concept I could never quite reach, I finally aligned with it on all levels.
I saw, felt and understood my twin flame's true unconditional Love for me also. I no longer doubted his Love - that subconscious block to union was being removed because I now fully aligned with his Love - I could feel it as truth in my whole being. I had finally merged with his Love that he had always wanted me to receive and my doubts evaporated immediately.
I then experienced union with God/Source's and our Soul Family's Love. My twin is the earthly grounded reflection of God/Source's unconditional Love for me. My union with my twin's Love helped me reach union with God/Source's Love because the way he loves me is how God loves me - truly unconditional. I could now see it, know it and become One with that truth, opening my eyes and realigning with my divine identity.
I began consciously connecting with this Love every day. It is absolute BLISS to reunite with Love, reunite with the knowing that you are totally 100% lovable without exception and to then be able to love yourself without conditions. It is truly liberating.
Finally, the search for Love outside of self is over because you've reunited with it within. Obviously it doesn't mean that you no longer want to be with your twin flame - not at all. It actually opens you up to receive their love, finally allowing union to flow in. By breaking through the thick crust of illusion you create room to allow union with your twin to flow in.
I have been so blissed out with Oneness and feeling finally aligned with my Soul Family, my twin and my true self that it has become a bit of a ritual to take the time every evening to tune into this union, to keep powerfully dissolving the old conditioning and false (toxic) identity I had once been so imprisoned within.
My healing has been astronomical! - much, MUCH more rapid than ever before and I never knew I could shift so much in such a short time! People are noticing it - commenting on my confidence and state of ease which is dissolving all the anxiety! I see myself more clearly and my intuition has become even more powerful too.
I began thinking "I gotta share this!" I have been strongly guided by spirit to show the twin flame collective exactly how I achieved this remarkable healing and alignment. I have seen huge shifts in my twin flame also since discovering this healing method. So I began thinking long and hard about my evening "ritual" I had developed and started crafting a powerful healing activation meditation so I could share with you the steps to achieve this healing. I wanted to include everything that has helped me align with this union.
The activation meditation I have created assists you with aligning with you twin flame's, your Soul Family's and your own unconditional self-Love so you can RECEIVE more Love, open yourself to RECEIVE UNION. Your twin flame and Soul Family are the powerful mirrors to help you see how loved you are! I also guide you through some times when you felt rejected and abandoned or when you judged or rejected yourself. I help you heal and purge these damaging experiences when you felt unworthy and unlovable. This clears the blockages, allowing you to reconnect with your self-Love on a whole new level, thus opening your heart to be able to finally TRUST your twin flame's Love for you and energetically allow him/her to align and unite with you. This powerful tool for achieving self-Love naturally aligns your twin flame with their own self-Love too! It makes a remarkable difference! I help you recalibrate your energies to align with your highest timeline and soul blueprint.
If you would like to create HUGE healing shifts, finally release yourself from the imprisoning conditioning of self-judgement and reach union with Love and your twin flame then I invite you to experience this journey with me in I AM LOVE, I RECEIVE LOVE: Powerful Union Alignment Activation.
All it requires is a small effort from you to listen to this meditation on a regular basis. If you listen to it often then you will experience PROFOUND shifts.
I really hope you enjoy the meditation and all the benefits that come with it! I look forward to guiding you on this journey on the other side!
As always, Love and Light to you,
How many times have you been hurt in love? How many times did you feel rejected by a man / woman? How many times did you dare to love again and then it all fell apart or never even happened and you were left feeling foolish again for ever daring to believe? How many times have you been disappointed? How many times have you felt as though your cared much more about love and the relationship that the other person did? How may times did you dare to open your heart again only for it to be shattered? How many trust issues do you now have surrounding men / woman? How badly did you feel let down, unloved, unappreciated, unseen, uncared for by your parents? How many times has love "failed" only to convince you more and more each time that love remains an impossible dream that you are helpless to attain or is constantly "kept from you" by the universe? Does it feel like a direct rejection from God? A punishment perhaps?
But what if love has only eluded you all this life because you didn't realise that you are love, and chasing love on the outside was taking you further away from who you are on the inside - love. What if experiencing blow after blow and feeling totally cut off from love on the outside forced you to withdraw and then go inwards to help you discover you ARE that love. What if it was never a punishment but the way the universe has been helping us to return to ourselves, to return to TRUE love. So within, so without can only happen when we've first reunited with the love within.
Running after love was only really chasing after someone to reflect love back to us, so we can see we are lovable, that we ARE love. But then we would become too heavily dependent upon finding it outside of ourselves to validate we are love because deep down we'd forgotten we are already love on our own, we don't need another to prove it to us. We came here to demolish the "separation consciousness" to transform it into "unity consciousness" and so everything has happened to force you back into yourself, to find your truth of love within.
Love only appears to remain out of reach when we continue to believe we are separate from it and so continue to seek validation outside of ourselves. We've experienced so much perceived rejection and separation from love and this creates an overall belief that we will never find (oneness with) love.
Our past rejection and wounding from lovers and parents makes become very cynical about ever receiving love. So when it comes to our twin flame we think "Why would you be any different to my past heartbreaks? Why would this connection turn out any differently from the past?" There's a subconscious belief that it won't. There's a subconscious expectation of being disappointed just like all the other times. It's happened so many times before, so it seems logical it would only happen the same way again. We've lost faith, we've been conditioned to NOT believe we can experience love on the outside.
There's even a fear of changing that incredibly limiting belief - of actually believing this time around love will work out in case it ends up just the same as all the other times. Then it would hurt even more because we dared to believe all the more in this twin flame connection. Then we'd feel even more rejected because we allowed ourselves to be more vulnerable in believing.
We're afraid that if it still doesn't work out even after believing even more, then our faith will be shattered for good this time, that we will never believe again in love, that someone will love us and we will feel all is hopeless, love will never come, love will never work out, we will never be loved.
Our past wounding and believe that we are separate from love causes us to lose all hope and we don't dare to fully trust again. We've been hurt so many times that we begin to expect all sorts of negative things surrounding love.
We expect to be hurt
We expect to be cheated on
We expect to love the other more than they love us
We expect our the other person to value the relationship less than we do
We expect to be rejected
We expect to be abandoned
We expect to feel the universe has taken love away from us again
We expect it to all be hopeless
We expect to be disappointed
We expect it to all be taken away from us
We expect to feel foolish and humiliated AGAIN
We begin to try and protect ourselves by pushing away the love or creating safety nets or barriers so we don't have to open our hearts fully so that we are more prepared for the worst we expect to happen. With such limiting beliefs our frequency actually blocks us from receiving love when we expect the exact opposite of love to happen.
We are terrified to trust. Part of us really doesn't want to trust because we did that before and look how much pain we experienced. We think it's all hopeless, love is stuck at arms length forever as that's how it's always been our whole life. It feels impossible to trust when we feel we've been shown love is always out of reach at all other times - THAT feels like the reality. To trust in love feels like we're trying to convince ourselves the sky is green when really it's blue. How can we trust the sky is green when it appears to be blue? Aren't we just being foolish, aren't we just going to end up feeling stupid and humiliated if we dare to believe it's green and it turned out to be blue all along? How can we trust that there is green within the hidden frequency of light if our eyes cannot see it?
Love always seems like such a struggle to attain. We wonder, is it even possible? It feels out of our control, we feel confused and uncertain about how to get it, we feel stuck in the dark about it all.
So what are we really afraid of? We are afraid failure to unite will mean love will never be achieved, love will never be our reality. We are afraid to find out that answer, afraid to get close to the twin in case our biggest fears are proven correct - love doesn't work out for us and that it likely never will.
How does this go deeper still? Well, underneath it all we are afraid that we will be kept locked out of our wholeness and peace. For we ARE love, that is our true identity. Deep down we are afraid to be "proven" that we will forever remain separated from our soul if we cannot have love, find love, sustain love. Our deepest core is frightened to death at the thought of some kind of external universe judging us as not worthy to come back home by connecting with love.
This is where the illusion of separation comes in - we forget that we ARE love and there is no separation. It's all about realigning with it within ourselves. But the reflection of the twin and feeling as though we are "cut off" from the love we share with them makes us very concerned we are "cut off" from the universe, our home, cast out, an outcast deemed unfit for the love of God/ Source / The Universe.
We are afraid to plunge into union in case we are "proved" unworthy. But really it would simply mean we are still stuck in the illusion of unworthiness and being separate from love / god / the universe, so it would simply mean we are NOT YET READY.
This is ultimately why sometimes we push away the opportunity of love - we either believe it's not going to work out based on past experience, or we are afraid that if it doesn't work out that we are rejected by God.
But really we are still caught up in this illusion of separation from love and being judged unfit to "have the right" to align with the love. The universe is trying to help us. It is trying to return us to remembering that we ARE love, to return us to unity consciousness. This journey back to ourselves helps others also to be able to do the same. It heals the planet because without the illusion of separation, rejected, judgement, supposed worthiness and unworthiness, there will be no need to project all our pain out into the world and try to gain power to prove our worth in some other separation sonsciousness, me vs you way. Everyone will know they are one with love, they are always worthy just because they exist and people will be able to give and recieve love simply and without fear of it being taken away from them.
How many of you, deep down, still believe that whatever happens in your connection is based upon whether God deems you worthy or not for love? How many of you are afraid of union not happeing because you believe it's a sign that God decided you were unworthy and failed at becoming "perfect" enough? How many of you are afraid that if it doesn't work out with your twin flame then it will prove that you will never experience true love to the depths of your soul, to the depths of who you are, that you will always be "severed" from it? You are feeling intense rejection just at the belief that you are being judged or have to prove yourself, or earn the right to experience love. This is all part of the illusion our souls want to now overcome.
The key is to reconnect with the love within. It's been said so many times, but it's the ultimate truth. We want proof that union and love is guaranteed and in truth, if it is your real twin then union is guaranteed because it's already here, we are living it. It might not appear that way, but once all the illusions are stripped away there is only the truth of oneness in love. The only place we find a guarantee is when we find the love within and so it reflects without. When you are connected with your core love, you know your worth, you know you are always one with love and thus one with your twin, you know you are not judged or cut off, you are not fearful, you align with love and allow love to become you complete reality inside and out.
As always, Love and Light to you,
There's a lot of confusion in the twin flame community about how to work out if a person we are sharing a powerful connection with is a real twin flame or false twin. I honestly believe that there are MANY false twin flame connections going on where people are convinced this is their real twin flame. I believe that real twin flame connections are far more rare than what it appears if we look to the twin flame community. This is why we hear so many tales of abuse and destructive behavior and then people believe that's how a twin flame connection should be, that's what a twin flame connection looks like and that's what we should expect. I remember seeing a video by a well known spiritual speaker"redefining" twin flames. This spiritual speaker really does have some profound spiritual insights to offer the world but when it came to speaking about twin flames it became clear to me that he had no idea what he was talking about and had totally misunderstood the twin flame concept. What I believe happened (and this is just *my* belief) is that he must have looked at the "twin flame" community, seen and heard all the complaints of abuse, mistreatment and everything that is NOT love from people claiming it's their "twin flame" and he must have thought to himself that this "twin flame" concept is really just a label for abusive karmic connections, so he redefined them as such.
I am not meaning this article to come across as condescending or arrogant in any way because I have been through this exact same confusion in the past. For 7 years I believed TOTALLY that my false twin was the real deal. I was 100% sure that he was when in fact I was far more naive than I realized. But how could I have known any better at that time? I did not know what real love was or what a real twin flame was, until I met my real twin that is about a decade later when I was far more experienced, awakened and wiser. So I am not bashing anyone for thinking an abusive connection is their true twin flame - I've been there done that. A false twin flame can break you open into such an INTENSE awakening, connect you with God and with your true soul self on such a PROFOUND level that naturally you could be forgiven for thinking this in "the one", that this is your twin. I TOTALLY understand the confusion and with this article I hope to help you by clearing up any confusion because at times the fine line between the false twin and the real twin can seem blurry, until you look a bit deeper and see there are in fact clear distinctions between the two.
1) With a false twin you will have an overall gut feeling that this person just doesn't really care about you. With a real twin flame you will just know deep down without question. Okay, so sometimes your mind may doubt this inner heart knowing to begin with when it comes to your real twin, but in times of inner stillness you will simply know they love you just as much as you love them. You will know they care about you deeply, that their true self wants you to be happy, to thrive, to heal and grow together. With the falsie you just see them going off in the distance and they really couldn't care less. A true twin flame may appear to do the same, but deep down you just know their heart sings for you and you alone. You know they see you as "the one" even if they are trying to delude themselves out of their own fears and surface level illusions. Eventually the real twin wakes up and WANTS to return to you no matter what it takes to unite harmoniously, whilst the false twin never wakes up nor thinks you are the one they must fight for because you aren't real twins and so it's not part of the contract. They simply keep moving father and farther away from you. Sometimes only time will tell when we can't seem to decipher if this is our real twin or not.
2) A real twin flame would never be abusive because they have attained such a high vibration through past lives and past experiences BEFORE meeting you that abuse is simply not something they would even consider bringing to the table when they meet you - it just doesn't resonate. They may have played out some abusive tendencies in a false twin situation PRIOR to meeting you to purge that karma first in preparation for the higher vibration in the real twin connection. I know I used to be verbally and emotionally abusive to my false twin because my ego wanted to give back exactly what I was getting from him and I had experienced abuse in my past so turned into the bully because I thought that was me taking back my power. But eventually I balanced myself and began to realize what healthy boundaries are so I didn't feel like I had to push people away by being verbally abusive. I also realized that my verbal abuse was NOT justified just because he wasn't loving me in the way I thought he should.
True twin flames meet when they are at a high enough vibration to return to love and abuse is therefore no part of that equation. Yes to begin with there can be some "game playing" or ego battles but it's never downright abuse once you've got to the stage of meeting a real twin.
3) With a false twin you will always be questioning "Is this my twin? Is this my twin?!" because deep down your soul knows it isn't but your mind desperately wants to believe they are. It feels too painful to accept that they aren't your real twin because then you will tell yourself it's because the universe deems you unworthy of love and has therefore rejected you and your prayers for finding and keeping "the one". But that's never the truth, the universe is not some patriarchal force judging you as "unworthy for love". That is one of the biggest illusions - that we are somehow inferior to a superior creator. We are all one, we are all god/dess and therefore there is no such thing as inferior or superior, good enough or unworthy. There is only love and we are all one with that, we ARE that love.
When we so desperately want to believe this abusive person is our true twin flame (to try and fix our abandonment issues by hoping they will miraculously change themselves around completely just to commit to us and prove to us that we are so utterly and completely lovable because we've forgotten to believe that about ourselves)... we will likely twist their abusive and careless actions in our minds into some delusion that this is their way of showing just how much they love us!
With a real twin flame it's okay not to know at first whether they are your real twin or not because there's often so much illusion and ego to release before our truth can shine through in the shape of heart-based intuition. But eventually you will just know they are your real twin flame.
4) In a false twin flame connection you will experience an underlying feeling of it being toxic and bad for you, harmful to you. Whereas with a true twin flame it will have it's ups and down but ultimately you will feel an undercurrent of love, peace, nurturing and healing. You will know that ultimately this connection, this person is good for you, brings out your strengths and is for your highest good. There will be an underlying feeling of optimism as opposed to pessimism or a "sinking feeling" with the falsie. With the true twin you will feel the connection uplifting you overall.
5) With a false twin your core values will be totally out of alignment - you want kids, she can't stand them, you live and breathe spirituality, he thinks it's all nonsense and couldn't care less about that "crazy" stuff. You're like a square peg and a round hole - ultimately you just don't fit.
With your true twin flame you will have your differences - different interests, hobbies, personalities, jobs for example, but you will share the same core values. One may have a very "spiritual" job helping others and the other may assist with people's health and development in a different kind of way - charity work, nutritionist, simply spreading love and light in a way that compliments who they are etc, perhaps not even in the form of a job but just in their day to day life - there's no set rules. Both will feel an overall passion and drive to serve others, to heal themselves, to return to love and soul truth and union within themselves and with each other.
6) With a false twin flame one person will be completely content to keep living in the 3D illusions and will have no interest or soul pull to awaken beyond the veil. It's like you're the only one who senses anything spiritual going on. They are oblivious and couldn't care less. You feel incredibly lonely because you know they are on a completely different page when it comes to this experience. You're on separate pages and feel the separation between you. Deep down you know that you are heading in different directions overall but right now your ships are intersecting momentarily before you continue to pass each other an go your separate ways. Years later you see that they haven't awakened at all and haven't changed much at all and they seem quite content in their sleep state, blissfully ignorant. It's likely nothing major happened for them like it did for you. You realize it was just not a part of their soul contract to awaken in the way that you did.
Yes, at first with a real twin they / we can be oblivious on some level but there's always a deep undercurrent of a magnetic pull drawing us into "something much bigger" than our old way of seeing life. It can take time to consciously become aware that we are being pulled into awakening and we can resist out of fear and misunderstanding for a while but overall there is a pull whether we consciously realize it or not, whether we resist it or embrace it. A falsie will feel no pull into "something bigger". But real twin flames we cannot be asleep forever. The awakening, the magnetic pull becomes stronger and stronger until eventually it is so OBVIOUS that we cannot deny it any longer or fight our own destiny.
There's also a sense of coming home with the real twin, feeling understood, seen, heard, recognized for your unique beauty, appreciated, united, one. You no longer feel lonely, you know you are always connected, always loved exactly as you are, that you are always travelling this journey with your divine companion right by your side. There is no separation, only unity and oneness.
7) A false twin flame connection gets progressively worse. It just feels like it's always slipping through your fingers and when you do connect it's mostly filled with drama, power struggles and abuse. You begin to feel like the connection is ridiculous, that trust could never be restored because too much bad sh*t has gone down and that you'd be seriously disrespecting yourself to keep going back for more. And yet you feel chained to them even though you intensely don't want to be. You try desperately to cut the ties because it's become so toxic but you can't (yet). There seems to be more drama that has to play out. It feels like a destructive addiction pulling you into the pits of hell where you keep asking yourself "What the hell am I doing?!" but ultimately feel you cannot get away because you are chained together in an utterly destructive and co-dependent way.
True twin flames do trigger each other BUT there is always a undercurrent of love as the driving force behind this tool for purging, healing and growth. You may want to cut the ties at times with the true twin out of frustration and pain but it's never because the connection is toxic or feels "dangerous" or damaging or because your soul is yelling at you "GET OUT!" True twin flame connections cannot be severed because they are the oneness of true love whereas the ties between false twin flames will be cut off by our soul WHEN we have returned to self-love and the realization that we are much more worthy than to accept this abuse. Usually the false twin ties are broken when we realize and finally accept that they will not fill in the voids we were hoping they would, when we realize that we CAN survive without them.
With a true twin flame your connection continues to improve. The more you heal, the more harmonious your connection becomes. Optimism increases as the fear-based illusions dissolve.
8) The ego will dominate a false twin flame connection and it will get worse and worse playing power struggle games to try and be the one on top, the one in control in this me vs. you paradigm. Yes, there will also be an element of this in the beginning of a true twin flame connection but the key difference with the real twins is that their souls, higher selves and spirit guides will always guide them back to love, to their hearts, to see beyond the ego and all it's illusions. Real twins will be guided through their ego blocks until the ego dies more and more to make way for the heart to open fully. They will feel a strong pull to kiss and make up, to put things right and come into a balanced win-win solution for both. Real twins WANT to be on the same page, it feels most natural and peaceful for them to be in harmony with each other, working together at all times.
9) False twin connections are often about the sex. Sex is often mistaken for love and true intimacy. A false twin will only be too happy to turn back to you if sex is on offer whilst at all other times they are running the other way. Sex becomes a bargaining chip for the chaser in exchange for (very little) time, attention and the illusion of a deeper commitment coming soon. Many false twins hook up in this way for an energy fix because they are feeling so drained inside and desperate for someone to fill in those voids and give them a high because in truth the connection has sunk so low and made them feel so low. It's all about co-dependency and there's not a shred of true love to be found.
In a true twin flame connection sex is not the glue that holds you together at all - it's love. You may not have even had sex with each other ever and although there is a desire to make love it is not the most important aspect of your connection, again that's the love, the growth, the emotional fulfillment of truly being seen and loved and appreciated for who you really are.
10) A false twin flame connection happens when you are SERIOUSLY not loving yourself - when your lack of self-esteem has become so extreme that you attract a mirror image of your self-loathing - someone who WON'T or CAN'T love you because you WON'T or AREN'T loving yourself. Again I am not judging - I've been through all of this!! False twins are often PREPARATION to make you sink so low that you FINALLY get angry enough to realize that you do deserve better, that you are worth more than this, to RISE yourself up again through leaving and knowing you CAN survive without them. This realization cuts the ties to the falsie and in leaving you are loving yourself more. This in turn raises your vibration so that you may be ready to attract your true twin flame and work through similar lessons with them but on a much higher frequency which means that the true twin connection does not fall into abuse but can rise further into love.
The real twin flame connection does have it's ups and downs but it is still far more harmonious than the false twin connection.
I hope this information has been helpful. But if you are still feeling confused and unsure then I recommend booking a in depth reading with me in order to really dig deeply into your connection, the energies and the wounds which are playing out. We really do attract our mirror image whether it's a false twin flame or a real twin. I can help you understand what you need to heal and how to heal those areas within yourself so that you are vibrating at a high frequency in order to attract a connection for your highest good or bring back harmony in a true twin flame connection. I offer 15, 30 & 60 minute video or email readings to cater to all needs and budgets. If you would like to book a reading or find out more then click here.
As always, Love and Light to you,
I am writing this article in the hopes to help some of you who may be struggling to understand the difficulties your twin flame may be going through in their awakening and in your connection. A lot of people consider me to be quite awake and aligned with my truth, but there is still a long way to go and it may surprise some people the fears and struggles I have been through along the way. The aim of my article is to help you realize that I didn't get to this level of awakening I am currently at very easily or quickly. I want to shed light on my personal awakening journey in the hopes that it might give you more understanding and compassion for your twin's and your own struggles and processes on this path of ever increasing enlightenment.
The Initial Disconnect
I can't remember the exact moment when I first felt I'd been unplugged from the matrix but it happened around 13 years ago. I do remember feeling like everything had changed somehow in the blink of an eye and it was beyond my control as "Karen". I felt like I was suspended in space, the stars, darkness - this is where I "really" was, I could see it all around me like a hologram but at the same time my physical body was being projected into the 3D world around me. I could see that I was in two worlds at the same time.
My friends didn't recognize that I was different to begin with - no-one could see it yet. It suddenly felt like the real me was invisible, like a ghost in the universe residing inside of me and all around me. No-one had their eyes wide open enough to be able to see. And that is okay. I felt there was now an invisible veil between them and me and I could see beyond it into this "other world", but was still at the edges looking back into the 3D.
When I talked to my friends it now just felt like an act - my mind asking myself "What would Karen have said, how would she have laughed, how would the old me behave around my them?" The alignment I once felt with them had fallen away before I'd even got a chance to say goodbye or even know that I was "going". It's like you're suddenly in a different perspective looking down on your old self, the version of you that others have known you to be. It's such a sudden shift that it's almost like a spirit that doesn't know it's died, it just stays attached to the 3D because that's what it was used to and may not yet realize any different. But the old me was indeed going, vanishing. I didn't know it was my ego dissolving, how could I have known that back then?
So here I now was in this strange limbo, feeling oddly distant from my former self, friends and life and feeling drawn deeper into this unknown "darkness". The magnetic pull was frighteningly strong. Where was I going? What was happening? Why do I feel so isolated from the world around me and yet curious of this deeper sense of belonging "out there" pulling me in? To say I resisted the transition is an understatement. Curiosity killed the cat is what I believed. I remember crying in the shower once, grieving the death of another fragment of myself. For the initial 3 or 4 years I really fought hard to fight this magnetic pull. I honestly believed that if I gave in to it then I'd be sucked into a black hole of destruction. Again, I did not know it was the ego identity dying, I honestly felt I was losing my mind (in a way I was), that I was dying. I didn't know where I'd end up so I clung onto my old life, the old me, hoping one day I would return back to normal and the hoover in the sky which had set its sights on me would conk out :-D I believed I just had to fight it until it gave up on me.
I put on an even bigger mask than ever before during my initial awakening. It was clear my friends were not accepting the new me. It already felt like everything was falling away and so I was afraid of losing those around me even if they were't for my highest good. They were my sense of safety, I could hide behind them too. We went out partying lots and for about 4 years straight we would abuse alcohol every weekend to the point were I wouldn't even remember a few hours of most Friday and Saturday nights because of alcohol blackouts. I tried to make out I was the opposite of these deep spiritual truths arising within me - I played the joker in the group to avoid any serious conversations that might threaten my cover.
The Catalyst to My Awakening
My awakening had been triggered by an intense soul catalyst connection, some would call karmic. It was very destructive in bad and good ways, i.e. it was abusive but also acted like the tower card - breaking up the very foundations of falsehood, ego and too much 3D alignment which I had build my life upon, that we are all taught to build ourselves upon. I felt intensely drawn to him through this unbreakable magnetism and yet I tried to fight it so hard. It brought out the worst in me for a long time and I projected it all onto him relentlessly. I actually 100% believed it was his job to be what I wanted him to be. I was so resentful because he continue to deny me "what he owed me". He owed me nothing. But at that young age it never even crossed my mind that it wasn't his responsibility to fix me and give me all the love I was lacking in childhood and lacked for myself.
I would push him away because I thought he was responsible for all this destruction I was going through. He mirrored back to me all my childhood wounds of abandonment and rejection. It was horrendous and I felt I had to just get away from him. But the magnetic tie had not been broken no matter how horrible I or he had been. It was because I was trying to run away from myself, my pain that kept the bonds strong. If I could use a tarot card to describe that connection it would be The Devil card and no, not because I think he was the devil haha, for in truth he was an angel is a very good disguise!! But I would say we were The Devil energy because the bonds were everything that was not love. The soul contract was based on love yes - to help each other, but the 3D level was everything but love. It was shadows, shadows, shadows, and intense codependency.
But looking back it is SO OBVIOUS that I was no where near ready for true love. I did not love myself hardly at all. I was full of illusions and ridiculous expectations. I was not aligned with love, I didn't know what love was, so there was no way it was going to manifest with him, it wasn't even meant to.
It was a terrible time. I still felt incredibly isolated and yet at the same time closer to God. Friends saw all this destruction and abuse going on with him and didn't understand at all, even tried to interfere and force our connection to be over to "save me" to no avail. The ties cannot be cut until we've understood what our soul wants us to. The spell was only broken once I'd finally accepted he was not going to change, he was not going to fill in my voids. I still didn't fully comprehend that I had voids, that I was subconsciously seeking another to fix my childhood wounds. And I didn't understand at that time that it wasn't personal, that it wasn't that he chose not to love me, but really it was just not meant to happen like that, so he couldn't love me even if he had wanted to.
Being In The Spiritual-Closet
I was in the spiritual-closet the whole time, only daring to "test the waters" with some of my friends, but it back fired, they could not give me the validation nor the reassurance I was seeking in relation to my awakening and intuition. It only served to make me feel more disconnected from sanity.
For over a decade I was SO frightened of anyone knowing I had these spiritual beliefs. The thought of anyone finding out made me feel MORTIFIED - just the thought of it! I was so afraid of people thinking I was a crazy, delusional, pathetic, kumbuya-my-lord hippie! The way it would make me cringe was unbearable. There was a twin flame community I would regularly chat with others on and I remember asking a friend on there "Am I a fool?" when I was thinking of doing tarot readings online. I really did feel foolish. This must have been based upon some messages I was brought up on, but I felt like I was humiliating myself by letting my true authentic self be seen.
I had no confidence - how could I be in the limelight even just a little tiny bit? How could I face all the questions and judgement from people who didn't understand my beliefs or the pitying looks from those who would think I'd lost my grip on reality? I learned as a child to hide my true self from everyone. It was not safe for me to be me, I was not supported emotionally or encouraged to grow and blossom. The only sanctuary was behind my walls and masks and hiding away in my bedroom all day. When you feel as though parents aren't there to look after you, protect you, encourage or support you, then you feel your only safety in the world must be created by yourself. Children need to feel safe and when they don't they will run and hide emotionally. It becomes ingrained, you suffer with low confidence as an adult for a long time.
I began doing the readings though, but the only way I could face it was by using a pen name and a stock photo. We only had one computer in the house at that age (I was still living with my parents) and it was situated in the living room. I remember I would be working away on my website doing readings and writing twin flame articles and my parents would be on the other side of the room. Any time they came close I would quickly switch to another tab to make out I was doing something else on the computer. I would always have something generic open like Google or Myspace haha that I could quickly click onto if they walked by!
I even went as far as to buy voice changing software at one point so I could record channelings to post on my old website!!! I WANTED to express my truth but was just so incredibly afraid. The recorded channelings soon came to an end though when my Dad saw the voice changing software on the computer and asked "What's this?!" and I offered him a look of confusion and shrug of my shoulders to deny any recognition of it so he deleted it in case it was a virus that put it on there! X-D!!
It sounds crazy the lengths I went to yes?! Does it help you to see that perhaps your twin's actions aren't so crazy?? A part of me felt guilty as though I was lying with all these masks I was wearing, but at the same time I felt this incredible pull to get my message out there somehow. Spirit is telling me now that I had to experience this hiding in order to help other's understand their twin's better now.
I lied to my family and even some friends and especially acquaintances for over a decade about what my real job was because I was so afraid of being judged and them asking more questions as I sat there squirming in humiliation. When applying for bank accounts or anything formal like that where I had to state my occupation I would write something generic like "website director". It never felt safe to share my truth with my parents or family. It would have fallen on deaf ears. It often felt like they looked through my brother and I rather than truly being present. I realize now that it was a reflection of their own wounding, but when you are a child you just take it personally and feel unworthy. It becomes a habit to be in hiding, second nature.
When you learn to isolate yourself for your whole life your energy also gets used to feeling comfortable and safe in that isolation. It can be hard to let anyone get too close. It doesn't mean you don't want closeness or love, it means there's this subconscious energetic pattern that's so second nature that you don't realize how much it's going on let alone how to heal it and tell your inner child it's okay to come out of hiding now.
If you would like to heal your inner child and any other wounds or blocks then my Healing Violet Flame Meditation is specifically designed to transmute dense energies into healing love and light.
Meeting My Twin Flame
My true twin flame came into my life because I had given up on believing in twin flames! I'd got to a point where I no longer needed a twin flame because I no longer had faith that they even existed. And then he appeared! I noticed very early on a stark contrast between my real twin flame connection and the karmic connection whom I was once 100% positive was my twin! With my real twin there has always been a core underlying energy of love, peace, nurturing, healing, rising, hope, peaceful excitement, growth, longevity, innocence, shared understanding (we are on the same page) and joy. It's a feeling that calms me, heals me, supports me and uplifts me. It's the stark opposite of what I felt with the catalyst connection - that was an underlying feeling of electricity, danger, fear, depression, doubt, struggle to try and hold up the connection and keep a hold of him (my soul knew deep down it wouldn't last forever). It felt like it was always slipping through my fingers on some level.
My true twin flame always supports my growth, wants to see me happy and thriving, is on the same page, it just feels RIGHT, flowing, natural. Yes there are sometimes ups and downs but we try to smooth out the kinks as soon as possible and fall back again into the natural feeling of harmony. With a true twin the ups and downs become fewer and less severe rather than more severe and more often with karmics. My twin shares the same fears as myself, the same childhood wounding to do with isolating ourselves. There's no doubt that he loves me. With the karmic catalyst, I was always questioning if he loved me and trying to twist his abuse into a completely different meaning which I told myself reflected his love for me! One uplifts and heals over time, the other drags you down, eats away at your self-esteem and gets worse until you finally HAVE to leave to save yourself.
So where am I at on my healing and awakening journey right now? Only a few months ago did I dare to reach out for the first time for help from a healer, a counsellor. Before that I would tell myself I could heal myself all on my own. I was very resistant to getting close and trusting a therapist to reveal all my truths and vulnerabilities. I always wanted to appear strong and in control.
I still struggle to be myself around family. We still never talk about emotions. But I've come to realize that this journey into authenticity doesn't mean we have to say "This is who I am like it or lump it" to every single person we cross paths with. It's okay to accept that my parents won't understand where I am coming from so there is little point trying to force a square peg through a round hole. A part of having healthy boundaries and balance is to know when to preserve your energies and to know when it feels good a healthy to express yourself. It's always about balance - the integration of both polarities - knowing when to be totally authentic and knowing when it may not serve you to be totally open (to those who may abuse the privilege).
I struggle to allow people too close a lot of the time. It's because I pick up on other' energies so acutely and I need a lot of alone time to recharge. And also because I never received feedback or validation as a child that I was a good, lovable, kind, smart, beautiful person or anything positive like that I always felt I was no good, mediocre, unlovable and so always assumes others would not accept me either.
I did experienced a lot of energy vampires growing up who took advantage of me in all sorts of different ways, majorly over-stepping my boundaries and so it creates a deep fear of being open and receptive and it's not always logical or makes sense. But it's not that I don't want closeness with people, it's just this alignment with isolation on an energetic level. Twin flames WANT union, they want to be healed, they want love, it's just all these fears, patterns, miss-alignments that cause us to NOT BE ABLE to receive that or create that union in the physical until we have reconnected with our true essence within and learned to love ourselves enough to not feel the need to hide away.
I hope my article has helped you to look more deeply into what's going on within your twin flame and within yourself rather than feeling hurt by surface appearances. I hope it brings you some comfort and peace.
Thank you everyone for listening and allowing me to express my truth. It is so incredibly healing for me. And thank you my beautiful twin flame for truly listening to me, wanting to hear and embrace who I truly am and see me blossom into my truth whilst you courageously heal yourself and value this journey. You have been my biggest supporter and have help me beyond words to get to this point where I am obviously so far beyond the fear that I used to be caged within.
Love and Light to you all beautiful twins!
For many years I have known about Eckhart Tolle's book The Power of Now, but for the same amount of time it had been sitting unread in my Kindle. I guess my soul wasn't fully ready to align and deeply understand the wisdom within these texts just yet. I had watched a few of his videos and read a few articles over the years, all of which were extremely enlightening and helpful, but only has it been recently that I have become ready to read the book and fully embrace Eckhart's wisdom. (I must say that before I go on I am in no way sponsored to talk about this book!)
Upon reading the book I was amazed at how it mirrored much of the wisdom I had tapped into over the years from my own soul. But reading the book has helped me to make deeper sense of the truths I had found within, helped me to join the dots and find the missing puzzle pieces in order to create a whole picture.
The book talks in great detail about the false self or ego - identity that veils the truth of our soul, our authentic being or presence. The ego self builds up a collection of thoughts based on external experiences to create a mental image of ourselves - our self -image. It can create many different beliefs about who we are based on what's happened to us in our lives, i.e. looking outwardly to try and measure who we are. But who we really are, our soul, is not determined by our mind, the world around us or who we THINK we are. Our true self becomes lost beneath the chatter of the mind. We begin to define ourselves based on the mind's judgement and (lack of) understanding of the world.
For example, if someone breaks our heart our ego will tell us it's because we are unlovable or unworthy. Our ego will then store that belief as a picture of who we are. Equally, through the experience of heartbreak our mind can store up an image of the universe being unfair or unjust and that becomes a mental image we hold about the universe. Then our whole outlook of ourselves and life becomes distorted. We begin seeing everything through distorted mental images and mistakenly believe them to be true. But they are just a judgement our ego created about ourselves and the world.
The truth of who we really are becomes totally distorted when we associate too much with the mind. All sorts of social and family conditioning also create an endless stream of beliefs and judgement that are from the mind and are not of the truth left hidden beneath it.
Many of us know that we must now clear, purge and heal the old wounds, illusions and blocks - basically the distorted image of self created by the ego, the false self, to make way for the true soul within to emerge. But we often totally misunderstand how to go about doing this healing. Our ego tells us that we must sift through every single wound or area which requires healing, that we must dissect our mind and shine light and love into every hidden crevice of the shadows, using a fine tooth-comb to unearth everything that is not in alignment with our true soul self.
Have you noticed how utterly exhausting that is? Do you often feel overwhelmed by such a mammoth task? Does it feel like the healing is never ending? Do you feel it's hopeless because when you heal one aspect of yourself it feels like a mere drop in the ocean of what is still left to sift through and bring into the light? Do you feel doubtful that you will ever fully heal? Do you feel that twin flame reunion (which is truly reunion with your own true soul) is always stuck somewhere in the future because there's still a mountain of stuff to be cleared? Does a part of your ego use that as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone, i.e. "I can't get close to my twin yet because I'm not healed enough yet."
I have felt all of these things when it comes to healing ad reaching enlightenment. In truth, no healing method really seemed to fully resonate with me - it's always felt like the healing was only touching at the surface at best even when I did persevere with it. It always felt as though the bigger picture, the bigger truth of what would really heal was missing, the healing puzzle was patchy and incomplete. Okay, so some healing techniques I have adopted along the way have been helpful for me, but only to a certain degree. It always felt like struggle, a bit hopeless because like I said, it was only healing a grain of sand when I had a whole beach to heal.
It all felt a bit hopeless and like I was scratching around in the dark to find the light, confused and overwhelmed. I felt like I was healing at a snail pace and it has only been upon reading the wisdom within The Power of Now that I realized it's because our ego tricks us into believing we have to understand everything, every little wounded part of ourselves and sift through it all individually in order to heal. The book explains how this is the ego's way of keeping us gripped by it so it can stay alive. The mind wants to understand everything but the real understanding comes from stepping back from the mind and allowing the wisdom of our soul to shine through.
The wisdom within The Power of Now resonates with me very deeply. I feel it is more aligned with how to FULLY heal, to see the bigger picture and work with healing the bigger picture. The mind likes to complicate everything, the truth within the book is simple. I truly do believe that aligning with our light, our truth, our soul and healing illusion is FAR easier than our ego likes us to think.
If you believe that healing is a struggle, that it's never-ending and you're feeling hopeless then it's because you are too aligned with the mind. The true way to heal this and align with your true authentic self is to become the observer of your thoughts and feelings. Whenever you think something negative about yourself try to catch yourself doing that. Be the true you, the one beyond the thoughts of the mind. Also do the same whenever you experience a negative emotion - know that the true you is not defined by your thoughts or emotions. When you step out of the ego self and recognize whenever you think or feel something negative, you begin to dissolve the association of "you" being your mind. Then you become more aware of the illusion and it dissolves. This frees you to become more conscious - your soul comes up to the surface more and you align with your authentic presence in this way.
The ego likes you to believe that you ARE the wounding itself, that's just you, and it's afraid of dying, so we can subconsciously hold onto the pain and illusions for as long as possible to keep our sense of self alive.
The following is an excerpt from the book:
Interviewer: "I feel there is still a great deal I need to understand about the workings of my mind before I can get anywhere near full consciousness or spiritual enlightenment."
Eckhart: "No you don't. The problems of the mind cannot be solved on the level of the mind. Once you've understood the basic dysfunction there isn't really much else you need to learn or understand. Studying the complexity of the mind may make you a good psychologist but doing so won't take you beyond the mind, just as the study of madness isn't enough to create sanity. You have already understood the basic mechanics of the unconscious state, identification of the mind which creates a false sense of self, the ego, as a substitute to your true self rooted in being ... The ego's needs are endless -it feels vulnerable and threatened and so lives in a state of fear and want. Once you know how the basic dysfunction operates, there's no need to explore all it's countless manifestations, no need to make it into a complex personal problem. The ego of course loves that - it is always seeking for something to attach itself to in order to uphold and strengthen it's illusory sense of self and it will readily attach itself to your problems. This is why for so many people the large part of their sense of self is intimately connected with their problems. Once this has happened the last thing they want is to become free of them - that would mean loss of self. There can be a great deal of unconscious ego-investment in pain and suffering. So once you recognize the root of unconsciousness as identification with the mind, which of course includes the emotions, you step out of it, you become present. When you are present you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is not dysfunctional, it is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek yourself in it and mistake it for who you are. It then becomes the egoic mind and takes over your whole life."
When it comes to aligning with our authentic self, it's not about looking into each and every minute or big thing that we tell ourselves we have to heal individually - that would take forever. It's about realizing the truth that the mind is not who we are, the self-image that ego created is not who we are. It's about coming to this OVERALL understanding and working to recognize when the false identity comes up so we can go about healing this and aligning with who we really are in this simple and universal way.
So to repeat the main point: We don't have to heal every single thing we feel has hurt us over the years and caused us to have a poor self-image, or the stereotypes of the world around us that have affected us. When we continue to catch out the ego by looking to our true presence, or the one who observes the ego, we are no longer bound to the illusion that we are the ego and that we must understand everything in order to move on from (heal) it.
Isn't this far more liberating and effective than trying to heal and understand everything single little thing from this lifetime, other lifetimes, how your mother made you feel abandoned, how your father made you feel rejected, how your ex made you feel unworthy so on and so on. For each of these wounds there could be countless branches leading off in all different directions in which you experienced this pain and where it stemmed from. Trying to heal everything by examining it all is like trying to look through and dissect every single part of a tree in order to understand it - all it's thousands leaves, blossom petals, all the the individual veins on the leaves, every curve of the bark, the growth rings, the water it's soaked up, the amount of minerals in the water, all the branches and twigs and trying to understand their correlation to each other, where did this one stem from, where does that one go to, what does this mean? The roots and how they all branch off, the seeds that are scattered, where do they all go, what do they create, how do they link to other trees, what characteristics are passed on through the "bloodline", the atoms within all the trees that stem from the one tree, etc etc etc to dissect every atom of the tree and understand it all - it goes on forever!
If the healing path has felt incredibly overwhelming, impossible, futile - then it's because you have been going about it the wrong way, the impossible way rather than seeing the bigger picture. Make the healing simple, become your soul observing the illusions of the mind.
I hope this comes as light at the end of the tunnel, as a huge weight off your shoulders and gives you hope that true healing is possible in a far more simple and effective way.
As always, love and light to you,
Here I am going to explain some of my own personal reasons why my twin flame connection is such a blessing in my life. I hope to inspire those who are feeling fed up and disheartened to look beyond the surface to see some of the "hidden gems" a twin flame connection truly provides. As a society we are often taught to look on the negative side of things, look at what's lacking compared to the beautiful gifts we often don't recognize and take for granted. Also, we have a habit of comparing this divine connection to the old 3D paradigms that we are actually meant to unravel as illusion and transform into the soul truth.
Here's some examples that mean a hell of a lot to me and have been utterly life-changing:
- A Twin Flame connection makes you realize just how much we are brainwashed with utter bs through our society - the illusions, the rules we are "supposed" to follow to be good (repressed) citizens, the (low) standards we are supposed to mold ourselves into in order to fit in (God forbid we try to stand out as an individual), the mixed messages we are fed on how to be a good, competent, successful man or woman. There's such a heavy focus placed upon shallow things - how we look, what we wear, how much money we make, fixation on celebrities, sex, men are defined by a,b,c and women are defined by x,y,z. Stereotypes run amok and they are so ingrained we often don't realize we are judging others based on utter illusions.
There's certain "rules" we are taught directly or indirectly that we are "supposed" to base our lives upon then we heavily criticize ourselves if our lives don't match up to those OUTDATED "ideals". For example, according to society I'm "supposed" to be married by now because of my age. When I split up with my ex-fiance and had to live back at home with my parents for a while, someone said my life was in a mess and I should think about taking drastic action to get my life back on track. I was absolutely shocked that this person was basing my life success on external circumstances because in my eyes I never even looked at it that way - In fact, even if my day to day life circumstances didn't appear to be ideal on the surface, I had never been happier in my whole life - I had awakened, I had a loving connection with my twin flame, I had finally got the courage to leave a relationship which wasn't serving me, I had my beautiful baby son, I felt free and joyous, my life had taken on so much meaning, I felt I had a purpose, life was no longer dull it was EXCITING and I had achieved much healing! That is my barometer of success - how I FEEL, not how things look on the surface!
- A twin flame connection shows you everything that's wrong about traditional 3D relationships. We are shown that a "proper" romantic relationship should be full of certain co-dependent traits - that we must define ourselves by our relationship status, that marriage is all about "settling down" as if life should slow down and come to a halt of sorts or a "conclusion", that "true love" means you would be miserable without the other person, that our partner should be perfect and provide us our every need, that true love is all about a physical relationship and if it doesn't look like that then it's just a "fantasy" or there's something desperately wrong with you to hold onto such "scraps" or "crumbs". SCRAPS AND CRUMBS!! The realization that eternal life is real, that someone loves me for my soul, the awakening of myself as an infinite being, the total change in my beliefs surrounding life after death, the telepathy, the development of my intuitive and psychic abilities, the LOVE, the UNDERSTANDING from my twin like no other, the HEALING, the resonance, the shared heartspace and constant union and communication between us, and SO MUCH FRICKIN' MORE! These are not scraps, they are the keys to MY SOUL, my eternal being, my heaven on Earth.
I tell you something - no physical, traditional 3D relationship has ever come close to the utter bliss I feel in my twin flame connection. Life has COME ALIVE! I am constantly growing and my life is no longer some dull and boring routine which was eating away at my soul. Some might say it's because "you are living a fantasy" but this is very real. And besides, even if it was a fantasy, it feels far better that what the sleepers call "reality" and what I call the real illusion.
I fell victim for a very long time (like so so many do) to believing the bs of society's opinions about what romantic relationships should look like. We are taught to be "realistic" and believe soul connections and love at first sight is just a myth or are ungrounded. So we should settle for the man/woman who looks good on paper but our soul is uninspired by, because after all time is ticking so it's "better" to have someone rather than no-one to share your life with. I felt miserable but I didn't understand why for so long. My mind was saying that I SHOULD be happy because I have everything that society deems fit for the perfect relationship. Except I just felt miserable. I felt drained and lifeless and trapped. It took quite a long time for me to realize I had my mind and then I had my heart. We are mostly taught to be sensible, follow the logical path, be realistic. But what is seen as "realistic" is utter bs, and what's seen as utter bs is actually realistic, for the most part, in my opinion :-) I finally realized through the help of my twin flame connection that what I was feeling was the painful imprisonment of my soul and awakening. I was subconsciously in resistance of my soul's growth and the direction it was leading me to my highest good.
- A Twin Flame sets you free from attachments. Most twin flames go through a physical separation of sorts. This is a beautiful thing because it rids us of our co-dependency and illusions of the "should be's" described above. We must release the attachments whether we like it or not. We can choose to resist this (often because we don't understand that we need to release this or know how to), or we can consciously do the healing work required and truly surrender to align energetically with our twin flame reunion. (check out my eBook Twin Flame Reunion Manifestation to learn how to effectively align with reunion in this way).
The resistance of letting go can cause so much pain and we often have MANY unrealistic and subconscious expectations which society's illusions have fed into our brains that we MUST release. We finally (often after much struggle) get to release the outdated illusions about NEEDING our twin flame or anyone outside of ourselves to make us feel whole, validated, emotionally safe, rescued, fixed, healed, loved etc. This breaking down of attachments happens to get us to bust through the incorrect belief that we are separate from the love that heals and fulfills all of these emotional needs. We are not separate, that is the ultimate illusion - we are ONE with everything we need, we are all connected to source, we ARE source and therefore we need to reach inside ourselves to provide everything we once felt we were lacking or denied from those outside of ourselves, namely parents and other types of relationships.
The twin flame connection really highlights everything that we mistakenly believe we are lacking or is being withheld or denied from us - really it points to all the things we are denying ourselves by believing we can only get it from outside of ourselves.
A twin flame connection also helps you release attachments to other karmic partners as you realize fulfillment and wholeness really does come from within. You become very cautious of getting stuck in 3D relationships where you are not free to be your true self to the point where the thought of settling for one feels like a nightmare and so not worth the hassle. You feel inspired to heal yourself consciously rather than going through the pain of a karmic situation just to force you to see what needs purging.
- A Twin Flame brings you closer to God and helps you to let go of fear. This connection often creates some of the biggest fears within you at first, often to do with loss. This is all to do with the illusion of feeling alone and disconnected from everyone and everything. In childhood we often feel abandoned and rejected and so alone and scared. We feel there is no safety, no support so we create walls to try and stay safe within. Our twin flame comes along to crash down our walls, but often they become thicker at first for a while as our fears (ego) tries to protect us even more from the threat of rejection and abandonment. Through the tug of war between the intense fears of losing our twin flame, losing the safety of our old life and our identity as we have known it (ego identity) we suddenly find ourselves seeking out God for support, for direction, to hold onto for dear life as everything else seems to be falling apart all around us (our illusions and everything that is standing in the way of our alignment with our true soul's potential). Thus our relationship with God is strengthened. "What is real?" we ask God, "What direction do I go in?" We don't understand at first that we are really asking the God/dess within ourselves for these answers, thus slowly developing our intuition.
We go through a time when we are awash with both ego (old illusions and paradigms) and intuition (soul truth and higher self path) and feel as though we are stuck in a frightening mess of choices, where we are afraid of either losing this or that depending on which path we take. For ages we can get stuck in making no choices because the fear is so great ("What if I make the wrong choice and lose everything?")
Eventually, the fears become debilitating. Trying to stay still whilst your soul is pulling you forward becomes more and more exhausting. When the fear becomes too much to bare we eventually become ready to trust in the relationship we have formed with God (our own heart) and follow our heart's truth, surrendering and handing everything over to God/the universe/ spirit. We eventually understand that in following what feels right as opposed to what feels exhausting, we are living the path we intended for ourselves. We suddenly realize that we cannot go wrong in following our heart because the truth has dawned within us that no path is wrong, all paths heal us if we are willing to walk them consciously, all roads lead to home. We realize there is nothing to fear because there is truly nothing to lose, only everything to gain. Our twin flame helps us realize it's all just perception - how we choose to see things which can potentially create fear. We realize we are in control of our thoughts and therefore our fears.
- A twin flame connection makes us realise we are Co-Creators with the universe. This is a super powerful realisation!! Whatever we think about, whatever we concentrate on, whether it's fear and loss, feeling desperate or trusting and feeling joy and love - we manifest more and more of that into our physical lives as reflections of our thinking / vibration. Eventually I realised that I'd been worrying so much about losing my twin, of being unworthy of love, of being rejected etc, that I was sending out INTENSE negative emotions (frequencies) into the universe and so the universe was reflecting back to me more and more situations and thoughts to make me feel fear and pain and everything I was thinking about. I was PUSHING him away with my vibration. We are CREATORS. The Law of Attraction is TOTALLY REAL. When I felt tense and afraid, so did he - it caused a palpable tension which clouded the pure communicative connection and we could really feel the heavy build up of energy between us. Likewise, when we feel happy, light-hearted, at ease and full of faith, our twin feels that too and it eases their fears and tension, opening up the gates to deeper connection and communion with each other. If you would like to understand a whole lot more about how our own vibration affects our ability to align with reunion and how exactly to become an optimal vibration for reunion to occur then check out my eBook Twin Flame Reunion Manifestation which goes into this in a lot of detail.
- A Twin Flame teaches you to live fully in the present moment and appreciate it. So many of us get stuck in the past traumas we have experienced throughout our lives. We've often not been taught how to effectively work through our emotions to fully heal. The wound gets bottled up - we may even think it's gone after a while, but then someone, especially our twin flame will trigger it right back up to the surface again, maybe even decades later. At first we think it is THEM who has hurt us, but really it's the old wound, or the story we attached to some hurtful experiences in the past which causes our pain to come up again. We hadn't fully processed and healed it or understood it was our own perception of the event which created our pain. Here's our chance to do it now. It's a divine gift to have our wounds triggered, but I have to mention that it's not about purposely being a masochist and putting yourself in abusive situations and telling yourself it's "good for my soul". Like I mentioned earlier, we can either choose to consciously do our healing work or we can resist that and attract painful karmic situations to trigger us instead. But my point is, once we heal the wounds that have come up and really clear them, we are free to live in the now, no longer shackled to the past for fear of history repeating itself.
Another way a twin flame helps us to really live in the present moment is when we get so sick and tired of feeling frustrated, disappointed, disheartened and hurt when they don't do something we want them to do, or the universe disallows the connection to unfold in the way or in the time frame that we want it to. We eventually get so fed up that we say "fuck it - I can't pin my happiness on this anymore." HALLELUJAH!! And it's not about abandoning the connection, but it's about abandoning the unrealistic and often old-paradigm-based expectations! It's time to focus on you, on your life, being responsible for your happiness RIGHT NOW. It gets tiring living for the future all the time when you realize you've been putting your life on hold and missing the present moment.
It doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing reality, this or that - i.e. "If I can't have my twin flame in the way I (my ego) wants, then I don't want him/her at all!" It's THE MIDDLE GROUND WE ARE SEARCHING FOR, the integration. It's looks more like this - "My twin cannot fulfill my unrealistic expectations because he's/she's supposed to be the one to help me break through them. Now I have reached this realization I can be more open-minded about how our connection unfolds whilst enjoying my life in the present moment." It's not about getting so fed up that you resentfully slam the door shut, it's about the realization that some of the expectations were unrealistic - i.e. not your twin's fault and now you have an opportunity to make a huge shift.
Our connection teaches us that it's all about the now for time in truth is an illusion, so to live in the past or present all the time is to forget to live in the truth. When we truly align with the TRUTH of the now, we are aligned with the oneness that everything is already here for us. If we are so focused on believing that the connection was in the past and now it's over or that the connection will become "real" in the future when we are physically together, we are concentrating on separation, because past and future are not in the present moment, they are in the illusion of linear time. If we believe reunion is in the future then we manifest it as always being somewhere off in the future. That's why we must align with our true connection which is real and alive RIGHT NOW in the heart space, it the truth beyond the 3D illusions. Focus on your oneness, and on everything that is great and nourishing within your connection and forget about what you think is lacking or not here yet, or may not happen etc etc. Shift your focus onto the wholeness of your connection right now. That will help you manifest even more of that.
- Here's just one of my own personal examples (there are MANY!) of why I feel my twin flame connection is such an amazing gift. My twin flame helps me to see and love the beauty of my own shyness. For my whole life I felt I was "weak" and that there was something wrong with me for being so shy, painfully so at times. I didn't realize that I am just exceptionally sensitive, can pick up on others emotions and energies and sometimes it can be incredibly overwhelming. Family would point out my shyness as if it was some kind of failure on my part and that only made me feel worse, that my own family thought I wasn't good enough and they put pressure on me which made we want to crumble in social situations even more. I felt that because they weren't embracing my shyness, i.e. who I truly was at that time, and inferring there was something wrong with me then there was no way anyone else would see me as a worthy person in any kind of sense. Surely they would just see me as weak and weird because I couldn't do something as simple as just talking normally to people. Deep down that is how I felt. I had constant destructive self-chatter which was just second nature. It has had a crippling effect throughout my whole life.
Now my twin is also very shy. I love that about him - I have always liked shy people because I feel a deep understanding and respect for them and vice versa beyond what non-shy people would know. I understand how exhausting it is, how most of us can be people-pleasers, how most of us have been taken advantage of for our generous natures.
I see the innocence in my twin's shyness and it helps me to see my own. I can see that it's nothing to do with a lack of worth, or not being good enough - it's all to do with the messages we received from the outside then adopted on the inside. I feel understood by my twin flame in a way that no-one else understands me. I see the beauty in our shyness, how it makes us be very introverted, very inwardly-focused. My twin flame connection has helped me to realise that my shyness has been a blessing in disguise - through my self-imposed isolation (for fear of being judged by others and because alone-time was the only time to get respite from constantly wearing a thick mask and heavy walls whenever in public), I had so much time to be with myself. This is where my intuition had room to speak to me from a very young age before I was even consciously aware of it. Had I constantly been around others I would not have had nearly enough alone time to connect with my inner being, my soul.
I love my twin so much and really appreciate his shyness because it has made him such a deep person too, very intuitive, very connected to his higher self. I see him in me and me in him. We have both tended to criticize ourselves heavily for our supposed shyness failure caused by feeling like we never fit in. But in truth we never truly have fit in or were meant to fit in totally with the 3D Earth realm - we are from elsewhere. We, along with some many other twin flames, have come here to break through the old paradigms and bring down and ground the higher energies to the Earth. When we feel isolated from parents, family, everyone around us, we become very well acquainted with ourselves and we also become excellent observers of others, of society, whilst feeling like an outsider looking in on the world. We could observe and see things beyond what most others can ever notice. Most people are too caught up in movement, to busy to slow down and see truth. My twin flame has helped me appreciate our stillness and how profoundly it has assisted in our union and mission. Our lives play out in slightly different ways, but our core wounding is the same.
- A Twin Flame strengthens you beyond all measure. Once you go through many of the ups and downs and realize you are still okay after it all, you begin to realize you are stronger than you thought. You see how fear crippled you and exhausted you and filled you with monsters and all things dark. You see how in the times you trusted and let love shine, the world became light, a beacon of truth, an existence of peace. One way took you away from joy and into your ego, the other into your truth and oneness with all. You realized it was your choice which perception you chose to adopt in your life and connection.
- A Twin Flame connection brings you back to yourself. They help to strip away all the illusions that took you away from knowing your true soul self. Meeting your twin flame and going through all the lessons, fear, ups and downs, revelations etc eventually you emerge uplifted, full of wisdom and insight into the real you. You shed so much become lighter to soar up into higher and higher vibrations, more and more light which illuminates more truth. What a beautiful sight, what a relief, what a beautiful gift this twin flame connection is! Not for the faint of heart, but for the brave, to emerge, shining in ones truth, weightless, soaring.
And this my friends, is the most important truth about twin flames, to discover self again, for they are the reflection of yourself after all. So any challenges you face, embrace them, love them, know that they won't destroy you, but they are here to empower you! Fear, pain and change are exciting challenges to self-mastery. Twin flame connections truly are an amazing gift.
I want to take this time to show my utter appreciation for you my twin. Thank you so much for all you do for me. I could write for eternity and it would still not be enough time to share my appreciation for your kind spirit. Thank you for being the one to awaken me to real life eternal.
As I write this, it's just broke into a thunderstorm! The lightning reminds me of the Tower card! Huge positive shifts are occurring, the breaking down of the old paradigms, old comfort zones, making way for a fresh new dawn!
Love and Light to you all as always!
Many people ask me, "How can I fully trust that reunion will happen? How can I fully open my heart to this? I might start to believe and then it doesn't work out. I will be heartbroken."
But the truth is, we may not know what is in store for us or what is for our highest good in the future. Physical reunion may or may not be part of the plan for our highest good. I believe we are meant to learn to fully trust in the POSSIBILITY of reunion if that is for our highest good, but also trust that if reunion does not occur then that is for our highest good. It's all about being in the present moment and releasing attachment, continuing to ask yourself is this connection for my highest good right now? Are you getting anything out of the connection right now or not? And I don't mean the physical connection, but is your soul growing from this connection? Is it helping you to evolve, awaken, heal, see beyond the matrix illusions?
There's some confusion surrounding this, especially when it comes to the law of attraction. "Aren't I supposed to believe 100% that I will unite with my twin flame in order for it to manifest?" Yes and no. Yes, it's good to believe that reunion will happen if it's for your highest good, but also stay open to the possibility that your highest good may not involve reunion.
This isn't about giving up on reunion, but it's all about releasing the attachment and becoming okay with the possibility that reunion might not happen. That's how we release the fears which actually prevent it from happening if it's meant to. Attachment creates fear of loss. We begin to believe we NEED this to be happy. This is a dangerous place to be because we can start basing our whole life and happiness around this, around the external needing to be a particular way. And then it will manifest in a totally different way than we want it to just to trigger us so we release the attachment to allow the universe to bring us our highest good.
Some of you may be wondering "Why should I hold on if there's a possiblity that reunion won't happen?" But that's the key, this connection isn't about "holding on" in the hopes of future reunion, it's about enjoying the present moment, appreciating your connection right now. Holding on implies attachment, but appreciating the connection exactly as it is allows it to unfold how it wants to unfold. It's never about putting your life on hold. And I must note that in saying this I am not saying you need to date others, unless that what feels right for you.
If reunion doesn't happen we must release the idea that it's a mistake. Nothing is a mistake. It may mean we need to learn something before reunion can occur. It may mean it's not part of our soul contract to happen. But many twin flames fear "fucking up" and blaming themselves but this is to misunderstand how everything is an opportunity for growth and eventually leads us to our highest good.
So it's okay to affirm to yourself, "I am open for reunion with my twin flame or whatever is for my highest good". This way, you are believing in reunion as a possibility, but also you are not in resistance to your highest good coming to you in the way it's supposed to. This also helps you to release fear that your highest good has to be from reunion. You are allowing yourself to go with the flow.
Still, many twin flames are scared to believe reunion could possibly happen. They are afraid to trust and then it not happen. They are afraid of the emotional pain that will come up if things don't work out in the way they hoped. But our emotional pain is based on the stories we attach to events. I will say that again - OUR EMOTIONAL PAIN IS BASED ON THE STORIES WE ATTACH TO EVENTS. So if reunion didn't happen, how would you end up blaming yourself, or telling yourself it didn't happen because you are unworthy, or because the universe is unfair, or because you can't trust in love, or that it didn't happen because you are unlovable...? What ways would you hurt yourself by these false beliefs? This is what you are fearing - your own stories.
Those of us who are fearing to fully trust in the possibility of reunion and therefore are afraid to open our hearts 100%, are really JUST AFRAID OF THE PAINFUL STORIES WE WOULD TELL OURSELVES AS TO WHY REUNION DIDN'T HAPPEN. We are afraid of feeling like we failed somehow and that the lack of reunion is a reflection of our worth. That's what we are truly afraid of. But the good news is our thoughts are under our control and are our own responsibility.
Many are wanting proof that reunion will definitely happen before fully committing and opening their heart. Other's are trying to become perfect in order to feel worthy enough so that reunion is a guarantee. Neither of these methods are realistic - they are illusion and reunion cannot occur in the vibration of illusion.
So what's the solution? How do we learn to release our fears of trusting in reunion 100% so we can fully open our hearts and become fearless? It's about changing the stories we tell ourselves when things don't go to plan or manifest differently to what we expected. It's about healing the tendency to blame ourselves or falsely believe we are unworthy and that's why things don't happen how we planned. Once that negative, self-blaming and self-destructive voice is transformed into a loving, nurturing and trusting one, we will no longer be afraid of what happens in the unknown future, because we will no longer be blaming ourselves and beating ourselves up.
We need to come to a place where we truly believe that no matter what happens it IS for our highest good - it's not a punishment for being unworthy. It means there's some other plan which is for our highest good. Then the future is not scary because we know what's best for us is always coming our way even if we don't understand it at the time.
Yes, in the moment when something happens in a way we didn't want it to we can feel afraid, disappointed, hurt etc but it's because we cannot see the bigger picture. But this pain will soon pass if we have created the solid belief that our highest good is always unfolding and the universe has our back. We must learn to develop this trust if we are truly to surrender and allow our highest good to flow to us without our resistance of fear and trying to control things or steer things.
We must also create a firm understanding that wounding happens to provide us with the opportunity to look into that area within us more deeply and heal and strengthen that area within ourselves. If we are resisting our fears of feeling pain in some way or in some area of our life then that is exactly what we need to work through. If we refuse to face our fears then we will manifest those fears in the external to force us to work on healing them. The more we resist it the more we manifest it. Whatever THOUGHTS or events which stimulate our negative thoughts about ourselves in some way, that make us feel uncomfortable or in pain are the very things we need to work on healing.
What are your biggest fears when it comes to this connection and your twin flame? Now what thoughts / stories are you / will you make up that hurt you if your biggest fear were to come true? How do your fears really boil down to the pain you will inflict on yourself if your worst nightmare were to happen? You see, all of your pain is really about YOU, about how you percieve things to be a negative reflection of you in some way. And it's in your control if you can put in the time and effort to really dig deep to unearth the core wound that you keep inflicting upon yourself. We often take things as "proof" of what we secretly think about ourselves, but really they are just manifestations of our beliefs into the physical.
Stop taking disapponting or hurtful circumstances as a reflection of your worth and start realising it's a reflection of the limiting beliefs we need to heal within.
So we need to ask ourselves, why do we fear reunion not happening? What hurtful meaning would we pin to that? This shows us exactly what we need to shift. It's all about us knowing our worth, knowing we are always good enough. Until we remember this, we will keep manifesting triggers until we eventually come to this realisation. We are subconsciously giving away our power by believing we can be emotionally hurt by external circumstances, but we reclaim our power when we realise it's our own thoughts, which we DO have control over (with perserverance) and therefore we can CHOOSE to empower ourselves rather than disempower ourselves.
We need to actively embrace our fear and OWN IT. Don't let it own you!
As always, Love and Light to you!
This week's reading has a lot of messages about merging our soul truth with our day-to-day life.
Love & Light
I felt drawn today to do another twin flame mini reading :-) I'm going to be using the True Love Reading Cards by Belinda Grace and Lori Banks. Sorry that it's been a while since the last mini reading - I felt I needed some time to relax and rejuvenate my energies for a while. Recently I have been all systems go and it caught up with me, but now I am feeling more energized again :-)
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Twin Flame Mini Reading 13th June 2017
The card of the left hand side is for the masculine and the card on the right hand side is for the feminine. The card in the middle is the joint energy for both twins. Take whatever resonates whether you are masculine or feminine. I feel that a lot of the messages will apply to both twin flames.
This is a lovely card to draw for the masculine. It shows that he really appreciates true soul intimacy, the breaking down of walls of fear and conditioning to reveal his true, tender, sensitive self. As these walls break away more intuition, love and self-nurturing pour into his heart and being. The masculine is becoming intimately acquainted with his soul, his authentic self and is beginning to feel more at home in this alignment with his infinite truth.
Many masculine's have been conditioned to deny their need for true soul-deep intimacy to the point where many had forgotten their soul even desires and needs this. Many masculine twins have been broken open by love, pain, karma and awakening - you see love is the whole package, the light and the shadow. The masculine has allowed himself to become deeply acquainted with the shadows that lurk within his subconscious and has now befriended them with love, shining light upon the darkness and transforming it into a higher vibration.
Many of the masculine's are no longer afraid to dig deep. With the help of the divine feminine's compassion the masculine is supported in his quest to unravel illusion and unveil truth. Their inner feminine within the masculine is also in assistance with this process and is creating major positive shifts. This assistance with the inner feminine is helping him to have confidence in his masculine side also. Once we develop one "polarity" in a healthy divine way (as upposed to the distorted stereotypes), then the other aspect strengthens into balance also. For example, when the masculine embraces his inner feminine, he feels the love and nurting energy of his soul breaking through his emotional blocks to heal him. Then he feels more confident within himself and can take positive and healthy action in the physical in many different areas of his life (masculine energy).
The same can be said for the feminine. Once we "go out there" and take action to create a deeply fulfilling life for ourselves (masculine energy of grounding ourselves in the 3D) then we feel loved and supported by ourselves and our confidence about receiving (feminine) increases. These positive shifts occur of course only when we work on these two aspects in a healthy way. For the feminine - when we create (take action, masculine) our own joy, we align with the emotion of joy and so then attract more of that to ourselves to receive (feminine).
Many of the more awakened masculine's are feeling ever increasingly connected to the feminine in the 5D, energetically, telepathically. But spirit is saying that this 5D style of communication and union is grounding more and more here in the 3D i.e. it's not just our imagination, it's very real, it's very present within our day-to-day lives, it's very "noticeable" and so it is here, in the 3D. It's grounding more and more, merging the higher realms with the Earthly lives. Polarity shifting more and more into oneness, layer by layer.
For the "sleeper" masculine twin flames, spirit is saying that they are beginning to feel the deeper inner stirrings of their soul wanting more than just physical intimacy. They may still be in a state of confusion, still under the veil of illusion, but they are beginning to feel the soul truth shifting within. This is confusing for them at first. Their heart and therefore their intuition has been heavily repressed by society so it takes some time before they can interpret these soul signals into a conscious understanding. All they know is that they feel magnetically, irresistably drawn to the feminine in ways they have never experienced before.
Physical and sexual intimacy has broken their heart open to reveal more truth, but in the process the bottled up wounds have also burst free from their incarcerated heart. This is incredibly scary, especially as most masculine's have not been taught the tools to effectively process, understand, heal, release or express their emotions. Their barriers, inconsistencies and projected pain are all symptoms of their supression, confusion and wounding. They do not hurt you just for the sake of it. BUT, everyone needs to love themselves, both masculine and feminine, so please erect healthy boundaries and never accept abuse. We must love ourselves first if we ever wish to have others treat us with love.
Some of the masculine twin's are feeling as though true intimacy is restricted from them but it's because they are resisting fully releasing the unhealthy boundaries they have put up in their lives. There's a fear of judgement here, that through embracing the feminine both within and outwardly their "masculinity" will be brought into question by themselves and by those who are in their lives. But really it's only the distorted masculine elements which deny oneness with the feminine, whether it's the illusions within the twin flame or within those surrounding him who would judge his " lack of manliness" - i.e. his level of distortion. The divine masculine does not deny the feminine, does not hold onto the illusion that they are separate. The divine masculine works to release resistence to this truth. It's a process though and the walls are coming down bit by bit. As a whole, the feminine in our society is much more socially accepted in being aligned with their inner masculine.
But in the longrun the masculine is aligning more with the feminine energy of intimate accord with intuition, compassion, self-love, acceptance, receptivity and it's unplugging all the blocks, allowing them to FLOW more with their truth without having to put on the breaks of resistance and control. They are learning to be patient and live in the present moment, soaking up all the "goodness" of being in an open-heart, receptive state. This merging with the feminine happens firstly within and then they feel more "at home" in order to express it outwardly. This is both a conscious decision and subconscious alignment.
Now this is another card about balance of the inner masculine and feminine. Creativity occurs when we receive (feminine) inner guidance, direction, a calling, are receptive to the masculine, to the universe's plan (which is actually our higher selve's plan) combined with the masculine energy of taking action on that intuition or simply allowing whats happening to happen (releasing resistance and learning to surrender). Surrendering IS taking action. It's actively choosing to have faith and let the intricate workings of the universe to do it's job to align you with your highest good.
The imagery on this card also shows both the masculine and feminine (just like the intimacy card) and that means it requires both aspects in order for true divine creativity (production, growth, forward movement) to occur. Both aspects are equally important and we must release these old paradigs that men or women are better than the other in some way, shape or form. It's all illusion. We are all both aspects, infact there is no "both" there is only oneness. We are simply here to REMEMBER that we are one, not become it - we already are androgynous, we just come here to release all the illusions which makes us falsely believe in separation. In truth there is no "I'm the feminine, he is the masculine" - there's only the social conditioning as to which "polarity" we have been told we are based on the paradigms of separation, i.e. "Which stereotype do I most represent?" Spirit is saying - think of yourself as one and one is what you emerge as - the truth. Such is the law of attraction.
The feminine have also had a lot of stigma placed upon them for adopting more tradition masculine traits. This has been reflected in time through them not being allowed to work or to be educated, not receiving equal pay, being judged for showing anger or being overtly sexual etc etc. The feminine's must also learn to overcome the fear of judgement when it comes to emracing certain aspects of ourselves that we have taught is wrong fo us to embrace. The feminine has been so repressed and depicted as the "weaker sex" that some have fought back rebelliously and tried to become overtly the distorted masculine - power, sex, career. I am not judging any of this, but I can see that for some it can swing from one direction to the other. It's now time for both the masculine and feminine to come into healthy balance.
'Creativity is not just about being artistic or inventive. It's about thinking outside of the box and choosing to see things from different perspectives. It's about embracing the all so you aren't simply heading down a one-way street all the time energetically speaking, i.e. keeping yourself confined to old beliefs, habits, ways of doing things / seeing things etc. It's about freshening it up! Actively become the energy of the tower tarot and see if you have been confining yourself in any way within the walls of your comfort zone or limited thinking. Try seeing things from your twin flame's point of view. Have you been viewing things one-sided? From a distorted feminine viewpoint or distorted masculine? Have you been assuming your life can only be a certain way? What pictures do you have in your mind about the way your life is going to be? Do you see much of the same routine in your future? Are you limiting your insights, your potential, restricting your imagination? You can be whatever you want to be, you can feel whatever you want to feel. We must use our imagination and then the process of creation begins.
If you keep attracting the same thing over and over and you don't like it, it's a sign that you are stuck in the same vibration. Sometimes it's simply about changing the stagnant belief that we have no power to create change for ourselves. Transform within, transform without. I have written a whole eBook about how to change your vibration in order to align with attract reunion. The channeled information within this eBook is truly life-changing. Check it out here
To me this card is showing that many twin flames are bringing more fun and excitement into their lives. They are really learning to appreciate the present moment. This is helping to release the illusion that happiness is somewhere "out there" in the future or somehow tied into physical reunion with their twin. It's here, it's now, it's all in our attitude.
This energy of creativity is allowing twin flames to flow, surrender, be happy and full of passion, all of which serve to raise our vibration higher and higher into the truth.
Joining Card for both Twins: Life Purpose
This whole journey is part of your life purpose. It's not necessarily a specific career path or working directly with twin flames (but it can be). Your life purpose is to raise your vibration, out of illusion and into truth. The energy shifts of this process help to inspire other astronomically whether they feel the shifts consciously or subconsciously. Energy is far more real than we are taught to believe and it's far more real than what the eye can see in the physical.
Our life purpose is simply to align with the love that we are. Then we become beacons shining out the truth to assist others into the light. This is how we are upliftig the planet into a higher vibration. It always starts with self-love, it's always about opening our heart to ourselves and others unconditionally so that the heartgates to the higher dimensions are open to pour in love to the world.
Our life purpose does not have to be complicated. As long as you keep your heart open you will receive the divine guidance to walk you through what feels right for you.
Many twin flames are now much more aligned with the love over the illusions and so their light is shining outwardly. This is not about becoming perfect or fitting into any steretypes of "spiritual people" or "gurus". What is YOUR truth in this moment? As long as you live in truth you shine your light, but even the process of struggle through the illusions helps to serve others going through the struggle. It's not a jump from A - Z, it's A, B, C and so on. The process ensures we aren't skipping any steps of healing and purging - we CAN'T skip any steps of alignment and so it's ponitless to blame ourselves along the journey.
We planned the journey. If we believe it's all about the destination then that is another old paradigm of separation that we are here to debunk - ie, "Where I am now" vs "Where I want to be". It's ALL bout the middle ground, the joining force of the here and now merging everything into ONE! That is why linear time doesn't exist - it's all about the middle ground of right here, right now.
Creativity is this middle balance in all it's expression.
I have created an infographic to better illustrate the illusion of separation and how to embrace the truth of oneness:
I hope you have found my reading inspiring :-D If you would like a personal reading with me where I will look deeply into the energies going on within you both, between the two of you and also give you guidance on how to heal yourself and take the next steps forwards, then you can book a reading here
Until next time, Love and Light to you!
Hey Beautiful Twins!
Thank you so much for all your kind comments, messages and support, I appreciate you all very much and feel thrilled to be able to help you in this way.
Today I felt drawn to pick a card from the tarot to represent both the masculine and feminine energies. I was excited to have picked the Fool, especially as this card appeared in my weekly reading on the masculine side. This shows me that the message of this card is very strong at this time.
0 The Fool - New Beginnings and a Leap of Faith
The Fool card is all about taking a leap of faith into a new beginning. This perfectly reflects what is happening for many twin flames right now. Many have worked hard to take a leap of faith in trusting in the union and that reunion will happen. We need to trust that we deserve this love, that we are lovable, and many twin flames are believing this now.
The masculine and feminine's increased belief in their union is helping them come together because due to the law of attraction, whatever we believe the universe mirrors back to us - it gives back what we put out. So support yourself! Have faith, BELIEVE, see reunion happening and it will. If you believe in all the blocks and that reunion won't happen or can't happen then the universe brings all that to you too. Take back your personal power, consciously CHOOSE what you believe in order to create it. Many are still in this process, but other twins have already succeeded in having faith and releasing the fears of doubt.
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This Fool is asking you to tune into your intuition and trust what it's telling you. Remember, the reality that spirit is setting up for you and your reunion is far better than the fantasy you are imagining. Trust only the best is coming and be open to what the universe brings you. The Fool trusts the universe completely and is all about surrendering in order to allow things to unfold in the way our soul intended.
Be careful not to act rashly or without thought. Take a pause as often as needed in order to align with your intuition in order to be guided down the right path for your highest good.
The Fool is also about leaving everything behind that we no longer need. He only takes the bare essentials with him. This indicates that we need to drop all of our unnecessary and outdated baggage, often from childhood, that is weighing us down and holding us back. We cannot claim to have faith but at the same time be holding onto our comfort zones or security blankets for dear life. If we are feeling unsafe or holding on too tightly to security then it shows we are still believing in lack and loss, in being separate from love, or perhaps feeling unworthy.
Look deeply into your fears that hold you back from fully opening your heart and being totally vulnerable like the inner child of The Fool. When we live on Earth we can be hurt many times and as a result become frightened and overly cautious about opening our hearts in case history repeats itself and we end up being burned again.
But when we love ourselves unconditionally, we realize that nothing in truth is personal and therefore nothing can knock us off balance and affect our self-worth. We reconnect with our soul truth and know that all is equal, all is connection and One in love, which is the very stuff our souls are made of. So there is no superiority or inferiority - nothing is personal - all is a reflection of our beliefs.
When we come to understanding this truth on a deep level we are free to open our hearts and balance intuition with action through a leap of faith to simply trust that all is unfolding perfectly in our lives and connection.
Many twins have now let go of the pain and limiting conditioning of the past and are either ready to embrace the new beginning in love with their twin or they are very close to doing this, standing on the threshold. There may still be an element of doubt for some where they are worried that they will fall flat on their face, but it's such a positive sign that they have even reached this place where they are so close to taking the next step. Be careful not to believe that it's just your twin who may be afraid - you are reflections of each other, so how are you still afraid or cautious?
The Fool is showing us that many twins have reconnected with their inner child and even re-parented themselves back into love, giving themselves everything they needed within but were denied as a child. This has healed the co-dependency that was standing in the way for so long.
The card before the Fool is the World which is all about completion, so twin flames have completed the old cycle of co-dependency and are now free to live more authentically, knowing in truth that happiness, love and joy really do come from within. This has helped to increase the twins' confidence and emotional balance.
I really do feel the huge shifts that are occurring right now and they are so strong and positive. It really is the beginning of a new chapter of increased faith that is also mirroring back to us through a deeper opening into union.
As always Love and Light to you!